sleepysparrow said:
Once you have plastic surgery once, you'll want it again and again and never be happy with yourself and even more misarable than you were before. It definately won't solve your problems or take away your anxiety.
I've actually had plastic surgery - Otoplasty, 2 years ago. It's a really basic and common procedure for people with big ears. The doctor just brings em closer to the head so that they don't stick out as much.
The idea is to have the surgery done while you're still young so that you don't get teased at school.... but this didn't occur to my parents, and so I got called 'dumbo' for most of my childhood.
I never even cared about any of my imperfections up until I started getting teased for them. That tends to change things. It's hard to ignore when there's some truth in their insults. My ears stuck out like a soar thumb!
Anyway, since the surgery I've felt better than ever. The doctor did a great job. It didn't eliminate my SA, but it certainly boosted my self confidence, enough so that I could do a lot of things I normally couldn't/wouldn't.
And I have no interest in getting additional plastic surgery. I know some people make a hobby out of upgrading their appearance, but I'm pretty content. The only thing I wanna do at this point is a few of the things mentioned in this thread - work out and get some new clothes.
sleepysparrow said:
Looks aren't everything. I'd rather be friends or date someone with half a brain over a plastic face and a fake body. Being real is way more attractive.
I know what type of people you're talking about. A lot of people associate plastic surgery with Michael Jackson or rich housewives wanting to looking 20 years younger from the toes up.
But honestly, most people who opt to have plastic surgery have a legitimate problem. I don't think it's about looking perfect. I think it's about looking normal. Some imperfections garner a lot of unwanted attention and that can be pretty hard.
These are the most common cases, but you don't see much of it on Dr. 90210, as I guess they're more interested in girls wanting tit jobs and lipo.
Angel_Of_Death said:
After reading the title and the post of this thread, I had to force myself to respond and enlighten all of you as I have experienced exactly that.
Just to give you an idea, I had a case of gynecomastia since the age of 12-13. For those who don't know what gynecomastia is, it's basicaly a case of breasts development in males around the age of puberty, in most case it's glandular tissue so it doesn't go away with diet or exercise, surgery becomes the only option.
You can't even begin to imagine, the mental suffering I went trough because of that condition. I know for a fact that my social phobia/anxiety was a direct cause from gynecomastia.
After doing alot of research over the years, I finally decided to get surgery done as it was the ONLY option. I was sure my life would change completely, and I was sure it would make my SA go away.
I joined the gym in April of 2007. I lost an incredible amount of weight. I became lean and cut. I got surgery done 1 year later, it cost me about 3000$. That was in April of 2008. It's been 9 months since I've had surgery, and I've continued training at the gym. I have a great body, muscular, lean, cut...I'm in the best shape of my life and I look good. I've gotten attention from women in 9 months that I haven't got in the 24 years of my life.
Having said all this. My social anxiety is still there. I'm still a social phobic. After all this, I thought I would overcome my SA and become super confident. I won't say my situation got worse, but I experience intense anxiety and sweating during summer time, and this was after surgery. I was shocked.
My complete body transformation has improved my life in many levels. So I don't regret it. But in no way did it cure me with SA.
The journey is still a long one....
I'm familiar with gynecomastia. It's a bitch.
From what you said though, sounds like the transformation has boosted your confidence... which would affirm the thread title.
I think a higher level of self confidence is key to dealing with social anxiety and overcoming the obstacles it presents us with. It may not eliminate it, but it should certainly make it easier to cope with.
Would you agree?