SA isn't real?
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The difference lies in physical versus behavioural.
Social phobia is a phobia (typically a behavioural/thought condition). While we may prone to it, it's not in our genes. It's habits and thought patterns, aided and strengthened by natural tendencies.
Compared to for example syndrome of down, which you're be born with were you to have it. It's not something you would develop over the course of the years like sometimes is the case with social anxiety.
Both are mental conditions and come with their own struggles. Neither are fake.
Social phobia is a phobia (typically a behavioural/thought condition). While we may prone to it, it's not in our genes. It's habits and thought patterns, aided and strengthened by natural tendencies.
Compared to for example syndrome of down, which you're be born with were you to have it. It's not something you would develop over the course of the years like sometimes is the case with social anxiety.
Both are mental conditions and come with their own struggles. Neither are fake.
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Labyrinthine
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My mother would love that. She was constantly picked on when she was younger because of being dyslexic, even by teachers. To this day she can't hold a job.
Odo
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I agree with BlackPuma.
I think there's a general sense of this just being something that we refuse to get over out of childishness or stubbornness, as opposed to something that we can't change about ourselves... so the idea of people needing help for it or simply not getting over it rubs some people the wrong way.
In some ways I think that's true but in others I don't think that SA people are entirely to blame, because after you've hit a certain point with it it turns into a cycle or a spiral that can be really tough to get out of.
I think there's a general sense of this just being something that we refuse to get over out of childishness or stubbornness, as opposed to something that we can't change about ourselves... so the idea of people needing help for it or simply not getting over it rubs some people the wrong way.
In some ways I think that's true but in others I don't think that SA people are entirely to blame, because after you've hit a certain point with it it turns into a cycle or a spiral that can be really tough to get out of.
koyaanisqatsi
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This is a good question. The "not real" argument seems dismissive just like the "get over it" statement. People do not understand the mental state, the near-constant, sometimes nagging, even vague fears that we have. There are times that I am terrified w/o having any conscious thought of what it is I'm terrified of. Usually it's an upcoming event that I'm not thinking about. I've been this way as far back in my early childhood that I can remember--back to 5 yo or earlier. Back then it was dismissed as shyness. It's dogged me all my life, affected every thing I've tried to do in school, in my career, and now in my almost comfortable retirement. Why now? I'm trying to move to a new house, and I'm having a very difficult time engaging with the people I need to in order to get moved. Once moved, I'll be OK and be able to live as a recluse once again. At my age, I no longer look for a cure, just the small comforts of being left alone.
recalcitrant
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It is real and in my opinion incurable. Sorry but you have to learn to live with it.
Flanscho
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"SA" is in the end just a name someone made up to describe a certain condition.
What is real is the way we feel and think.
And with every passing second, we all change. And we can influence the way we change. And we can influence the way we change regarding what is known SA, and as such the situation can be improved.
What is real is the way we feel and think.
And with every passing second, we all change. And we can influence the way we change. And we can influence the way we change regarding what is known SA, and as such the situation can be improved.
A86
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Livemylife
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Dsylexia isn't real? Huh? Where'd you hear that?
Anyway, anxiety is very much a real thing. I think I'm a person who's naturally prone to being anxious...It's something I have to fight because I get overwhelmed easily. Social anxiety is just one of the ways I am anxious. I can't see how it would not be real. Mental illness is very much a real thing.
Anyway, anxiety is very much a real thing. I think I'm a person who's naturally prone to being anxious...It's something I have to fight because I get overwhelmed easily. Social anxiety is just one of the ways I am anxious. I can't see how it would not be real. Mental illness is very much a real thing.
A Many Splendored Thing
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Being reclusive for over 20 years was just my imagination? MY LIFE IS A LIE
How am I reading this?!
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What I find interesting is that extrovert and introvert brain stimulation is actually different at all times.
Introverts supposedly have higher stimulation at all times and can get easily overwhelmed from too much(ie many people).
So why is it that both kinds can experience a fear of people?
I consider it to be part of a genetic response. We used to have to fear people before society showed its face. In fact, being stared at is uncomfortable for practically everybody; the brain specifically lights up certain parts when we know we're being watched.
Today's cities are much more massive than anything before. It's a side effect of evolution and a fast changing world.
But bad experiences can also trigger many subconscious thoughts. Much like being good at something can make someone arrogant.
We can only hope to control it the best we can.
Scandic123
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It can be cured. Many people have gotten over their SA.
Anxy
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Now I kind of feel I shouldn't bring up this topic. I feel bad, because of saying these things. It was just me overthinking I guess... You're all right. I think I just was confused because of what the ''normal'' people are sometimes saying when we bring up a mental illness topic.
PrincessKitty
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Ive got Dyslexia and Autism. So does make me not real??
Being reclusive for over 20 years was just my imagination? MY LIFE IS A LIE
Lol, I laughed out at this one. I am 9 years and counting (from the time I was professionally diagnoised). I haven't had a single real life friend for that long, and I am neither good at relationships. Its very lonely, I would think SA is very real.
