dpr
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So I worry a lot about everything, but most of it is about bad things happening to my family and loved ones.
My girlfriend has a shitty family who don't really communicate with her, but they are not the worst family in the world and I think they care about her at least a little bit, but she has always wanted to move out, so I have been encouraging her to do so.
So she told me she is moving in with her friend and that her friend wants to find an apartment ASAP. I thought this was great and was so happy for her. Then I find out that the reason her friend wants to move out ASAP, is because a few weeks ago her (apparently) ultra-religious, bad-tempered, suicidal, alcoholic father started throwing liquor bottles at her mother. The police were called but the wife refused to press charges. The father has just left the country for a while (don't know why). So this girl's mom told her, "You should move out before he gets back, I'm afraid he might kill you."
So my girlfriend is going to move in with this girl with the psycho father. What if he gets back to Canada and goes to her new apartment to kill her?! I realize I worry a lot, but I don't think I'm stupid for worrying about this, am I? Isn't this a dangerous situation?
I told my girlfriend I think it's a really bad idea, and told her all the reasons why. She sort of agrees it could be dangerous but she wants to move out anyway!
I don't know what I'm supposed to do. I'm not the type of guy to tell my girlfriend what to do, like forbid her or threaten to break up with her or whatever, but should I? If it means saving her life?!
She has talked to her friend about her concerns and her friend says, "You're worrying over nothing," and "My dad would never do that." I doubt anyone thinks their dad would ever kill them... until they get killed!
Her friend also told my gf, "It sounds like you're just thinking about yourself." As if my gf is her ticket out of her fucked-up household and she should be happy about it?!?!
I've asked friends what to do, and they all said not to do anything, but I feel like such a helpless moron.
On top of all this, I am sort of resenting my gf. She is putting me in a dangerous situation (since I'm of course going to spend time in her new apartment with her), and also... she knows I worry like crazy over the littlest things (I always want her to call me when she gets home, and I tell her not to take the stairs at work in case something bad happens, etc.) and she knows that THIS situation will make me not eat, not sleep, worry constantly, and she doesn't seem to care. Just as long as she gets to move out.
Her family is not the greatest, but they would never physically hurt her.
What do I do?!
What would you do?!
I'm going out of my fucking mind. I just want to go to my gf's friend's house and kill her dad preemptively or something!!!
I couldn't live with myself if something happens to my gf and I know I could have done something to prevent it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My girlfriend has a shitty family who don't really communicate with her, but they are not the worst family in the world and I think they care about her at least a little bit, but she has always wanted to move out, so I have been encouraging her to do so.
So she told me she is moving in with her friend and that her friend wants to find an apartment ASAP. I thought this was great and was so happy for her. Then I find out that the reason her friend wants to move out ASAP, is because a few weeks ago her (apparently) ultra-religious, bad-tempered, suicidal, alcoholic father started throwing liquor bottles at her mother. The police were called but the wife refused to press charges. The father has just left the country for a while (don't know why). So this girl's mom told her, "You should move out before he gets back, I'm afraid he might kill you."
So my girlfriend is going to move in with this girl with the psycho father. What if he gets back to Canada and goes to her new apartment to kill her?! I realize I worry a lot, but I don't think I'm stupid for worrying about this, am I? Isn't this a dangerous situation?
I told my girlfriend I think it's a really bad idea, and told her all the reasons why. She sort of agrees it could be dangerous but she wants to move out anyway!
I don't know what I'm supposed to do. I'm not the type of guy to tell my girlfriend what to do, like forbid her or threaten to break up with her or whatever, but should I? If it means saving her life?!
She has talked to her friend about her concerns and her friend says, "You're worrying over nothing," and "My dad would never do that." I doubt anyone thinks their dad would ever kill them... until they get killed!
Her friend also told my gf, "It sounds like you're just thinking about yourself." As if my gf is her ticket out of her fucked-up household and she should be happy about it?!?!
I've asked friends what to do, and they all said not to do anything, but I feel like such a helpless moron.
On top of all this, I am sort of resenting my gf. She is putting me in a dangerous situation (since I'm of course going to spend time in her new apartment with her), and also... she knows I worry like crazy over the littlest things (I always want her to call me when she gets home, and I tell her not to take the stairs at work in case something bad happens, etc.) and she knows that THIS situation will make me not eat, not sleep, worry constantly, and she doesn't seem to care. Just as long as she gets to move out.
Her family is not the greatest, but they would never physically hurt her.
What do I do?!
What would you do?!
I'm going out of my fucking mind. I just want to go to my gf's friend's house and kill her dad preemptively or something!!!
I couldn't live with myself if something happens to my gf and I know I could have done something to prevent it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!