sophie019
New member
Hi,
I'm new to this forum(so hello everyone
!), I'm 19 now and I don't think my AvPD can get much worse(I really hope so too
).
And lately I have been trying to do some of the things I find scary, but do-able, because my psychiatrist suggested it, and I know too it's the only way of overcoming these fears I have.
But problems I keep running into are 1: I've spent so much time by myself, not going to school, no friends, only talking to my mum and my cat, that I don't really know how you make friends and get people to like you anymore.
It feels very unnatural and I say weird things and my voice is shaking and my body just freezes.
Is there any way of learning how to be yourself and relax around people?(by being yourself I mean: say what you think, make a joke, say anything that makes remote sense at all..) because it just seems completely impossible to me.
And the second problem with 'facing my fears' is that I never feel proud of myself afterwards.
I always think I made a complete fool out of myself and I should go into hiding for the next year because that was the most awkward and embarrassing thing possible.
Which is why I really want to stop trying and stay inside my comfort zone, and stop trying.
Any advice maybe? personal experience or anything?
Really happy to have found this forum.![Smile :) :)](data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7)
cheers,
I'm new to this forum(so hello everyone
And lately I have been trying to do some of the things I find scary, but do-able, because my psychiatrist suggested it, and I know too it's the only way of overcoming these fears I have.
But problems I keep running into are 1: I've spent so much time by myself, not going to school, no friends, only talking to my mum and my cat, that I don't really know how you make friends and get people to like you anymore.
It feels very unnatural and I say weird things and my voice is shaking and my body just freezes.
Is there any way of learning how to be yourself and relax around people?(by being yourself I mean: say what you think, make a joke, say anything that makes remote sense at all..) because it just seems completely impossible to me.
And the second problem with 'facing my fears' is that I never feel proud of myself afterwards.
I always think I made a complete fool out of myself and I should go into hiding for the next year because that was the most awkward and embarrassing thing possible.
Which is why I really want to stop trying and stay inside my comfort zone, and stop trying.
Any advice maybe? personal experience or anything?
Really happy to have found this forum.
cheers,