_Brittany_
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Yes! I hate it so much.
Lea said:There were girls in school who said: why don´t you talk to us? We don´t know anything about you etc. But the thing is, with a rare exception of a few girls nobody was ever interested in talking to me, all they did was pointing out that I don´t speak. But I would speak, if they just started normal conversation with me. I did occasionaly speak with a couple of girls who were more normal than the others. But the majority just saw me as a kind of exotic animal or an alien or some retard, so it didn´t even occur to them that I am also a human just like them.
(This was in the secondary school, in the primary school I did have a circle of friends including some best friends).
I'm definately going to say that to people now. It'll be fun.Argamemnon said:How would they feel, if we said "you talk too much be quieter please".. ?
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Dave_McFadden said:Yeah, it always seems like some people would rather poke and prod at you instead of just talking to you like any other human being. Like you're some kind of an "interactive exhibit."
I think I'm OK at hiding my shyness from most people. Someone who knows me well described me as "aloof". I think I'd rather be thought of that way, than "shy".
Sometimes people will start talking to me like I'm 4 years old. Things like "Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww, you don't have to be scared of me." Or "Awww, I won't bite". To say the least that's a little frustrating.
I also used to get people who, upon concluding that I'm shy, act like they just figured out something really hard. Like they solved one of the world's great mysteries. And they're all proud of themselves. This happened more often in college than is does now. But people in college were strange too, so maybe that's not so big a deal.
Dave_McFadden said:Lea said:Sometimes people will start talking to me like I'm 4 years old. Things like "Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww, you don't have to be scared of me." Or "Awww, I won't bite". To say the least that's a little frustrating.
Yeah I absolutely hate it when girls do the awwwwww thing...that makes me feel like a little defenceless kitten or something...
personally, I like to be called "layed back" more than "shy", because it makes me seem more like I don't care about anything rather than I'm scared, you know?? Plus I hate being called a shy guy because the way I see it, shyness isn't a personality trait, it's a sheild that blocks people from seeing your true personality
n0id said:I too feel offended when being called shy.
During a movie at a friends place, I started commenting on something. Someone said "be quiet!". Someone else said lowly to the other "heh, the only time he does talk is when he should be quiet".
That was really painful to hear and not to mention offending.
theblank said:I'll never forget being voted most shy in Junior High School. That was humiliating...and unjust. What I suffer from is beyond shyness.