Jura
Well-known member
Hello people.
The most common advice you get for overcoming shyness is by starting slow and gradually become more and more confident in social situations. However, this doesn't work for me, as I always slip back into my old state. Even if I manage to get quite far, there's nothing to keep me there. Also, it's mostly aimed at people who don't "know" many people and is also a way for them to expand their social circles. So it's not suitable for me, as I know who I'd like to be friends (or more :wink: ) with.
So I decided (because I have a lot of self-esteem and know that fear of embarrassment is irrational, and doesn't really concern me much anyway, as it's short-term) to try to use a more direct approach and all of a sudden just become loud and social. I have normal social skills, I think, so half the work is done there.
But I still need something to push me and motivate me to do this. Like a little voice in my head that verbally harrasses me until I do it. Or, someone like one of my friends, who has the habit of slamming me into people or screaming out people's names to make me feel uncomfortable (he's not a good idea, though, as the way he does it doesn't help much). Can you think of anyting that would keep me going and keep me doing this?
Keep in mind here that I don't have social phobia and just shyness, so you're not gonna trumatize me or anything if I accidentally do something embarrassing (which I will, and don't particularly care about).
Thanks in advance. You'll completely cure someone of this terrible affliction if you manage to think of something that would help me!!!
So, get writing! Thanks again, I'll be infinitely grateful for any helpful advice.
The most common advice you get for overcoming shyness is by starting slow and gradually become more and more confident in social situations. However, this doesn't work for me, as I always slip back into my old state. Even if I manage to get quite far, there's nothing to keep me there. Also, it's mostly aimed at people who don't "know" many people and is also a way for them to expand their social circles. So it's not suitable for me, as I know who I'd like to be friends (or more :wink: ) with.
So I decided (because I have a lot of self-esteem and know that fear of embarrassment is irrational, and doesn't really concern me much anyway, as it's short-term) to try to use a more direct approach and all of a sudden just become loud and social. I have normal social skills, I think, so half the work is done there.
But I still need something to push me and motivate me to do this. Like a little voice in my head that verbally harrasses me until I do it. Or, someone like one of my friends, who has the habit of slamming me into people or screaming out people's names to make me feel uncomfortable (he's not a good idea, though, as the way he does it doesn't help much). Can you think of anyting that would keep me going and keep me doing this?
Keep in mind here that I don't have social phobia and just shyness, so you're not gonna trumatize me or anything if I accidentally do something embarrassing (which I will, and don't particularly care about).
Thanks in advance. You'll completely cure someone of this terrible affliction if you manage to think of something that would help me!!!
So, get writing! Thanks again, I'll be infinitely grateful for any helpful advice.
sorry, only boring people do. 8) 
