jiujitsu
Active member
I'm a United States Marine. I'm 24 years old and I'm in the infantry. I won't say which unit. I'm a Lance Corporal. I've been on a combat deployment to Afghanistan. I was there for 8 months in 2008.
I have Social Anxiety. I didn't really want to tell anyone here that I was a Marine when I joined the forum a few months ago. I joined over Christmas leave. I have this thing where I want to see if people like me when they don't know what I am. I don't really visit here much, though, so it's okay.
I've had Social Anxiety for as long as I can remember. I had few friends in high school and basically avoided girls at all costs. I went to a community college for 2 years and hated it. I only needed elective credits to get an associates degree, but refused to go back. It's when I started seriously considering the Marines. I wanted to do something I was proud of and the thought of that silly degree made me feel ashamed.
I hid in my room for nearly two years after that. I just couldn't do it. I'd sleep most of the day and wait for my family to go to sleep before I'd come out. My parents cut off all of my forms of entertainment and eventually threatened to basically have the men in white coats come and take me away if I didn't get a job or go back to college. The hardest word I have ever uttered from my lips is "Marines." I said it when I was shaking and backed into the corner of their room trying to keep standing with this tremendous amount of anxiety pouring down upon me.
I knew once I said it I'd be on the path. My pride would hold me to it no matter what. Over the next week I couldn't eat or sleep as I did what I had to do for the recruiters to get myself medically examined. I failed the blood pressure test. They let me try again. I had to lie when asked about history of anxiety and depression. I knew it would disqualify me.
I had a belief. I believed that the Marine Corps would beat the fear out of me. That it would cure me. "Get better or die trying.", is what I thought to myself. I wouldn't let anything stop me at that point. So, off I went. On February 19th 2007 I flew down to Parris Island, South Carolina to begin Marine Corps Recruit Training. I was half right. SA was kept it check while I was there. Every minute of our day was scheduled and socializing was the least of my worries as Drill Instructors lit into me every day.
I sit here now two years after graduating from Parris Island. I still have Social Anxiety. There is a difference, though. I can do what I have to do now on my own. The fear is no longer the number one priority. I still avoid socializing, but I have many friends here. It is hard not to make friends in the Marine Corps. My biggest issue right now is my lack of contact with females. I have a lot of depression because of it. It's made worse because all day I listen to my friends talk about their girlfriends and wives and children and all I do is talk to a couple of Chinese girls on the internet. Chinese as in they live in China. Their time is the exact opposite of my time. If they lived in America I'd probably stop talking to them because I'd be afraid they might want to meet me.
Fear is a funny thing. I've been targeted by snipers. I've been targeted by indirect fire. I've driven on roads with known IED threat daily. I've watched injured friends get air lifted off of the battlefield. I'm fine with all of that. I can't wait to go back for one more. I wouldn't talk to a girl face to face if someone paid me. What do you all think about that? I think that I may not be afraid to die, but I sure as hell am afraid to live.
A large part of me hopes I don't make it home the next time I leave. The other part wants to go back to college and become a doctor and marry a good girl and have ten babies. Maybe it's just a silly dream. Though, I thought that about becoming a Marine. That's what little hope I have. I wish you all luck in life.
Semper Fi
I have Social Anxiety. I didn't really want to tell anyone here that I was a Marine when I joined the forum a few months ago. I joined over Christmas leave. I have this thing where I want to see if people like me when they don't know what I am. I don't really visit here much, though, so it's okay.
I've had Social Anxiety for as long as I can remember. I had few friends in high school and basically avoided girls at all costs. I went to a community college for 2 years and hated it. I only needed elective credits to get an associates degree, but refused to go back. It's when I started seriously considering the Marines. I wanted to do something I was proud of and the thought of that silly degree made me feel ashamed.
I hid in my room for nearly two years after that. I just couldn't do it. I'd sleep most of the day and wait for my family to go to sleep before I'd come out. My parents cut off all of my forms of entertainment and eventually threatened to basically have the men in white coats come and take me away if I didn't get a job or go back to college. The hardest word I have ever uttered from my lips is "Marines." I said it when I was shaking and backed into the corner of their room trying to keep standing with this tremendous amount of anxiety pouring down upon me.
I knew once I said it I'd be on the path. My pride would hold me to it no matter what. Over the next week I couldn't eat or sleep as I did what I had to do for the recruiters to get myself medically examined. I failed the blood pressure test. They let me try again. I had to lie when asked about history of anxiety and depression. I knew it would disqualify me.
I had a belief. I believed that the Marine Corps would beat the fear out of me. That it would cure me. "Get better or die trying.", is what I thought to myself. I wouldn't let anything stop me at that point. So, off I went. On February 19th 2007 I flew down to Parris Island, South Carolina to begin Marine Corps Recruit Training. I was half right. SA was kept it check while I was there. Every minute of our day was scheduled and socializing was the least of my worries as Drill Instructors lit into me every day.
I sit here now two years after graduating from Parris Island. I still have Social Anxiety. There is a difference, though. I can do what I have to do now on my own. The fear is no longer the number one priority. I still avoid socializing, but I have many friends here. It is hard not to make friends in the Marine Corps. My biggest issue right now is my lack of contact with females. I have a lot of depression because of it. It's made worse because all day I listen to my friends talk about their girlfriends and wives and children and all I do is talk to a couple of Chinese girls on the internet. Chinese as in they live in China. Their time is the exact opposite of my time. If they lived in America I'd probably stop talking to them because I'd be afraid they might want to meet me.
Fear is a funny thing. I've been targeted by snipers. I've been targeted by indirect fire. I've driven on roads with known IED threat daily. I've watched injured friends get air lifted off of the battlefield. I'm fine with all of that. I can't wait to go back for one more. I wouldn't talk to a girl face to face if someone paid me. What do you all think about that? I think that I may not be afraid to die, but I sure as hell am afraid to live.
A large part of me hopes I don't make it home the next time I leave. The other part wants to go back to college and become a doctor and marry a good girl and have ten babies. Maybe it's just a silly dream. Though, I thought that about becoming a Marine. That's what little hope I have. I wish you all luck in life.
Semper Fi