I want to tell my friend whom I've known for nearly 10 yrs that I have S.A and depression. But I'm scared to death she won't understand or will stop being friends with me. I don't want her viewing me differently either though I know that's impossible. Considering I've kept quiet about it for 4 years, I wouldn't be shocked if she felt betrayed or annoyed for me not telling her either.
I'm so afraid she'll think I'm strange or 'retarded'.
^ I have a best friend of 11 yrs., but I've never gotten the courage to tell her about my SA or depression. It's not that I don't trust her, because I trust her with my life. I'm just afraid, like you said, she wouldn't understand, or she'll think differently of me. Sadly, she actually has a busy life (and a social one at that), so I don't get to talk to her often.
However, I have told my best guy friend (of about 5-6 yrs.) about my SA (didn't go into detail about the depression). I can't say he fully understood, and that happens, but I'm just glad he doesn't think differently of me, and he's always there for me when I need it.
I actually told her today and you were both right. She did understand and wanted to help. Thank you for helping me find the courage to tell her. It feels like such a relief
^ Glad to hear things worked out! This actually gives me hope. I'd love to tell my friend too, given the chance and the right time.