Feeling guilty or a bit uncomfortable after being talkative

[Chriswinnipeg]

Do you sometimes feel guilty or a bit uncomfortable after being talkative? I kind of do because I'm not so used to it and its feels like it's not the real me. Also standards will be high because people will think that you are normally talkative when you are actaully not.

 

[Emma]

I always feel like I'm an idiot and that I shouldn't have said anything, on the odd occasion that I do say something, they stare at me like I've farted and thrown poo at them 8O

 

[DelGreco]

Actually, I do feel a strange sense of guilt after being talkative because part of me starts asking "Why can't I do that all the time?" I agree with what you say about expectations too. I've built up a reputation as 'the quiet guy' and my biggest challenge is trying to soften that reputation. I am trying hard, though, now more than ever in the past.

 

[Foxglove]

I always felt terribly embarassed on the few occasions I have come out of my shell. Like, when I forced myself to go to a party and had a few glasses of wine, I would be less inhibited and actually talk to people and dance. The big hangover would come the next day, not from the wine but from the agony of going over everything I said and wondering if people thought I was stupid or silly, or fat. It's been a long time since I've been to any social occasion, simply because it's not worth the bad feelings which come afterwards.

 

[maggie]

Re: Feeling guilty or a bit uncomfortable after being talkat

Do you sometimes feel guilty or a bit uncomfortable after being talkative? I kind of do because I'm not so used to it and its feels like it's not the real me. Also standards will be high because people will think that you are normally talkative when you are actaully not.

yeah i do..and then i overthink and overthink..like 'did i sound like an idiot' or 'did i look like an idiot'..drives me nuts :roll:

 

[LaLaLa]

Yeah, I've always felt like I've said some really lame things that were better left unsaid. I feel so shameful afterwards and don't want to talk to that person ever again...OMG like there was this one time when I saw this boy at my college, from my old school... I felt so talkative at that moment because he was the only person I knew when I just enrolled at the college. I just talked to him nonstop for about half an hour before my lesson started...about anything. Woah, so embarassing/shameless of me. Probably I was desparate, lol.

 

[recluse]

I feel phoney if i've been more talkative and happy than usual. I feel as if i am faking to people.

 

[Infected_Malignity]

Re: Feeling guilty or a bit uncomfortable after being talkat

Do you sometimes feel guilty or a bit uncomfortable after being talkative? I kind of do because I'm not so used to it and its feels like it's not the real me. Also standards will be high because people will think that you are normally talkative when you are actaully not.

Yeah, but think of it this way. I know where you're coming from, but the 'real you' is composed of far more than even you know. The more you allow yourself to step out of the comfort zone, the more opened up you become. Nobody's standards are going to be raised because of it, so don't you even worry. Keep stepping outside the norm of what 'you' are. Or what you think you are, because chances are you're far more intricately designed than you've ever thought.

 

[Lugnaz]

I often feel as though I shouldn't have said anything at all. That people probably thought I was weird for saying what I said, and the way I said it.

 

[Shonen_Yo]

Yeah, it's a regular occurrence for me to wish i never opened my mouth.

 

[lame]

Sorry to be somewhat over-eager, but YES. It never occured to me that other people might feel like this. I feel the exact same way. A lot of the time after talking to people I feel so...err, strange and uncomfortable that I tell myself to never bother talking ever again as if to redeem myself. It's not really a "why don't I do that all the time?" thing; I can't really describe it. It seems ridiculous. I always thought everyone else would feel accomplished, but I feel like more of a fool than ever.

 

[Sinspaw]

Lame you shouldn't see things that way. What one of things I actually like in SP is that we're being challenged 24/7, it's exhausting but at the same time, when we/I have the courage to step up and talk when we think we shouldn't and it actually goes well, it feels nice. I often challenge myself to talk when I'm scared to, it's not always a good ending but like I said, it does feel nice sometimes. Or just, try and do it for yourself! and not for others, just think that you're talking because YOU want to talk and not because they might be interested in what you have to say, because that's what's hard, imo.

 

[Anathema]

I do. I usually feel embarassed and stupid after I talk a lot. And I feel like people are laughing at me behind my back.