Hey all,
This is my first post here on this forum, and I'd like to relate to you an issue that eats me up almost daily.
As it starts with all love stories, "you see, there's this girl" ... I've been interested in this girl (who we'll call 'Nicole') for the past 8 months. Now, for most of that time, she's been away overseas, and I've received a fair few offers from other girls to enter into a relationship with them, but have (regretfully) had to turn them all down, due to not being able to be "there" emotionally.
Nicole returned home a couple of weeks ago, and ever since then I've found it unfathomably difficult to try and talk to her, to even manage a "Hi", or "Hello", due to crippling anxiety problems. For some reason, I find it relatively easy to talk to everyone else except her, and I'm sure she's probably wondered why I appear to be "ignoring" her. Well, I'd give everything to be able to have a conversation with her, but I always seem to run scared when the opportunity even remotely presents itself. And, for days, I will dwell on this, and lose focus on pretty much everything else, which of course is not good.
I keep constantly telling myself "you can do it", but everytime I see her, I just drop everything and run away like a scared little coward. Hell, even when good friends of mine are seen talking to her, I can't even approach them!
And, what's worse yet, she's constantly been the subject of my recurring nightmares where I do try to talk to her, but no matter what I say, no matter how inoffensive, always has me castigated or looked at weird by her and her friends. I'd love for it all to stop, and I know the only way to kill these horrific visions is to swallow it and actually go up and talk to her, but I'm starting to think now maybe I'm a little too weak to deliver on my intentions, and will most probably gradually descend into madness as a result. ::
Friends of mine who know her who I've talked to about it say to try adding her on Facebook, but I tell them I'd rather physically talk to her first. But, this is really all just to cover up the fact that I have a strong feeling that she'll reject me. I mean, why should she accept my add if I can't even ****ing talk to her, right?
I actually had a pretty good opportunity tonight, but as usual I blew it. This has to end, I've actually come close to vomiting due to the intense anxiety that builds whenever she's around, and I fear that I'll fall into a full-blown anxiety attack at some point.
For whoever's read this far, I suppose I'm asking you, the good people of this board, for some advice as to what you might do in this situation.
Cheers.
This is my first post here on this forum, and I'd like to relate to you an issue that eats me up almost daily.
As it starts with all love stories, "you see, there's this girl" ... I've been interested in this girl (who we'll call 'Nicole') for the past 8 months. Now, for most of that time, she's been away overseas, and I've received a fair few offers from other girls to enter into a relationship with them, but have (regretfully) had to turn them all down, due to not being able to be "there" emotionally.
Nicole returned home a couple of weeks ago, and ever since then I've found it unfathomably difficult to try and talk to her, to even manage a "Hi", or "Hello", due to crippling anxiety problems. For some reason, I find it relatively easy to talk to everyone else except her, and I'm sure she's probably wondered why I appear to be "ignoring" her. Well, I'd give everything to be able to have a conversation with her, but I always seem to run scared when the opportunity even remotely presents itself. And, for days, I will dwell on this, and lose focus on pretty much everything else, which of course is not good.
I keep constantly telling myself "you can do it", but everytime I see her, I just drop everything and run away like a scared little coward. Hell, even when good friends of mine are seen talking to her, I can't even approach them!
And, what's worse yet, she's constantly been the subject of my recurring nightmares where I do try to talk to her, but no matter what I say, no matter how inoffensive, always has me castigated or looked at weird by her and her friends. I'd love for it all to stop, and I know the only way to kill these horrific visions is to swallow it and actually go up and talk to her, but I'm starting to think now maybe I'm a little too weak to deliver on my intentions, and will most probably gradually descend into madness as a result. ::
Friends of mine who know her who I've talked to about it say to try adding her on Facebook, but I tell them I'd rather physically talk to her first. But, this is really all just to cover up the fact that I have a strong feeling that she'll reject me. I mean, why should she accept my add if I can't even ****ing talk to her, right?
I actually had a pretty good opportunity tonight, but as usual I blew it. This has to end, I've actually come close to vomiting due to the intense anxiety that builds whenever she's around, and I fear that I'll fall into a full-blown anxiety attack at some point.
For whoever's read this far, I suppose I'm asking you, the good people of this board, for some advice as to what you might do in this situation.
Cheers.