Reholla
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I have just been realizing..or maybe i feel like I am the only person this happens to, but i feel like people show me their WORST sides.
I have been going to my therapist for months now...and overall i like him. At least, I know he has good intentions and is trying to help me. Even though sometimes i think he thinks im a nut. (not really...but he will laugh at my stories- and yeah they are supposed to be funny.. for example, i got in an accident and got a 4th degree sprain (my ankle was huge- kankles dont even describe it)...and i was telling him how when i went to my doctor i told him to just amputate it!!! lol... i was totally not serious. but later my therapist was like, now do you still think you should amputate your foot? so even though he laughs, im still like i know you think im crazy. oh well. me and my best friend were just always like that. free spirited...
anyway, one time i was talking to him, and he just randomly said, "people pick on you because you are a nice person..."
He's also, told me before, "where did you learn to get such a backbone?!"
so i know he doesnt think im a pushover.
He has also said, "standing up for yourself is a very important and great quality for a woman to have..." which made me feel good. But that first comment he made, i have seriously thought about in life situations so much lately!
Just EVERYday situations. People make things so complicated and word things in these weird ways, and im like 'yeah thats what I said"...its really annoying. and maybe it happens to other people too. i tell my parents stuff like this but they are like, you need to be less sensitive.
But my view is, I treat people, LIKE PEOPLE. I treat them how i want to be treated, and I treat them well. If they don't show respect, I lose it. I have no patience for that.
Like today...I just got out of class and was going by Schlotzkys to get lunch on the go, I had a doctors appt. for my sprain after at 1pm. Anyways, this is exactly what i said, "hi, i'd like a thai chicken pizza and can i get that with no nuts?" and the guy was like "well theres nuts in the sauce we put on the pizza"...and i said "well can i please get them taken off?" (I have been to this same restaurant and ordered the same thing w/ NO NUTS i know it is possible) and he said, "like i already TOLD you, they are in the sauce." (RUDE). And i explained, actually, I have been to this location before and gotten this very order, WITH NO NUTS, so it would be great if you could just take them off."
Then he goes, "are you allergic?"
And i look at him puzzled like WHAT, WHY...
And the stupid nosy woman next to me goes, "oh he doesnt want you to go into shock or anything!"
So i just smile at her in that "thanks for your UNWANTED opinion" way...
and was like, "All i know is, next to Thai Chicken, there is a yellow warning sign w/ nuts.. I do not WANT them to add nuts alright?"
OMG seriously...Im like lets make life complicated??!?! Do you not have enough drama in your life, why are you acting this way.
Is it really necessary, do you need my whole medical history in order for me to tell you whether i want f***n peanuts on my pizza or not.
AND this is ONE example. I have this crap happen EVERY day...with SMALL situations and BIG situations like this.
I'm not trying to sound all like a great person, but on my facebook account, theres this stupid app. called "compare people" and its where your friends vote for you on qualities. Well i am #1 kindest out of my 800 friends, meaning i won that 100% out of the people who have voted for me. I know a lot of people on here are probably known to be kind too, most people with SA are very sensitive and usually dont disrespect other people. I know i respect people, and can be pleasant...so what i dont get is how if I am having all these issues w/ people being jackasses, how other people MUST be having them...
And like my therapist said, people pick on me because i am a nice person...people use me as their punching bag i feel like. They figure, oh shes nice, she probably has a good life/self esteem, she can handle it. It's like well guess what- i have feelings too. And when everyone and their dog treats me like this i get SICK OF IT.
do yall know what i am saying? does this happen to yall?
p.s. leave stories if you have them.
I have PLENTY more where those came from..
I have been going to my therapist for months now...and overall i like him. At least, I know he has good intentions and is trying to help me. Even though sometimes i think he thinks im a nut. (not really...but he will laugh at my stories- and yeah they are supposed to be funny.. for example, i got in an accident and got a 4th degree sprain (my ankle was huge- kankles dont even describe it)...and i was telling him how when i went to my doctor i told him to just amputate it!!! lol... i was totally not serious. but later my therapist was like, now do you still think you should amputate your foot? so even though he laughs, im still like i know you think im crazy. oh well. me and my best friend were just always like that. free spirited...
anyway, one time i was talking to him, and he just randomly said, "people pick on you because you are a nice person..."
He's also, told me before, "where did you learn to get such a backbone?!"
so i know he doesnt think im a pushover.
He has also said, "standing up for yourself is a very important and great quality for a woman to have..." which made me feel good. But that first comment he made, i have seriously thought about in life situations so much lately!
Just EVERYday situations. People make things so complicated and word things in these weird ways, and im like 'yeah thats what I said"...its really annoying. and maybe it happens to other people too. i tell my parents stuff like this but they are like, you need to be less sensitive.
But my view is, I treat people, LIKE PEOPLE. I treat them how i want to be treated, and I treat them well. If they don't show respect, I lose it. I have no patience for that.
Like today...I just got out of class and was going by Schlotzkys to get lunch on the go, I had a doctors appt. for my sprain after at 1pm. Anyways, this is exactly what i said, "hi, i'd like a thai chicken pizza and can i get that with no nuts?" and the guy was like "well theres nuts in the sauce we put on the pizza"...and i said "well can i please get them taken off?" (I have been to this same restaurant and ordered the same thing w/ NO NUTS i know it is possible) and he said, "like i already TOLD you, they are in the sauce." (RUDE). And i explained, actually, I have been to this location before and gotten this very order, WITH NO NUTS, so it would be great if you could just take them off."
Then he goes, "are you allergic?"
And i look at him puzzled like WHAT, WHY...
And the stupid nosy woman next to me goes, "oh he doesnt want you to go into shock or anything!"
So i just smile at her in that "thanks for your UNWANTED opinion" way...
and was like, "All i know is, next to Thai Chicken, there is a yellow warning sign w/ nuts.. I do not WANT them to add nuts alright?"
OMG seriously...Im like lets make life complicated??!?! Do you not have enough drama in your life, why are you acting this way.
Is it really necessary, do you need my whole medical history in order for me to tell you whether i want f***n peanuts on my pizza or not.
AND this is ONE example. I have this crap happen EVERY day...with SMALL situations and BIG situations like this.
I'm not trying to sound all like a great person, but on my facebook account, theres this stupid app. called "compare people" and its where your friends vote for you on qualities. Well i am #1 kindest out of my 800 friends, meaning i won that 100% out of the people who have voted for me. I know a lot of people on here are probably known to be kind too, most people with SA are very sensitive and usually dont disrespect other people. I know i respect people, and can be pleasant...so what i dont get is how if I am having all these issues w/ people being jackasses, how other people MUST be having them...
And like my therapist said, people pick on me because i am a nice person...people use me as their punching bag i feel like. They figure, oh shes nice, she probably has a good life/self esteem, she can handle it. It's like well guess what- i have feelings too. And when everyone and their dog treats me like this i get SICK OF IT.
do yall know what i am saying? does this happen to yall?
p.s. leave stories if you have them.
I have PLENTY more where those came from..