Pacific_Loner
Pirate from the North Pole
Hello...
So I'd like to start a conversation about how you deal with anger and frustration, more precisely, will you explode, will you keep it all inside, or do you have the ability to demonstrate it while keeping it under control?
I'm asking because today I've been angry in a way I haven't been in a very long while.
I tend to keep it all inside, which I always thought meant "under control", because I hate how I feel when I'm angry, and when I try to demonstrate my anger or frustration, I lose control very easily (stuttering, shaking, blushing, voice breaking and tears, lol). So I try to keep my cool and take it easy instead, and deny that I'm angry. Note that I do the exact same thing with social phobia and that it works pretty well (I'm a fully functional socially inept person).
I don't get angry easily, and I got very good at pretending I'm not. So basically people know me as the one who never gets angry. And the one who is never anxious (haha).
However today I realized I haven't eaten all day and I have a headache (which never happens to me). I've noticed before, when keeping frustrations "under control", that I can have external symptoms like headache, skin rash, or stomac pain.
Note: When I push anger away, I really do believe myself that I'm not angry.
So I'm wondering... Would it be more healthy to hit a pillow or something?
What do you think? How do you deal with it?
So I'd like to start a conversation about how you deal with anger and frustration, more precisely, will you explode, will you keep it all inside, or do you have the ability to demonstrate it while keeping it under control?
I'm asking because today I've been angry in a way I haven't been in a very long while.
I tend to keep it all inside, which I always thought meant "under control", because I hate how I feel when I'm angry, and when I try to demonstrate my anger or frustration, I lose control very easily (stuttering, shaking, blushing, voice breaking and tears, lol). So I try to keep my cool and take it easy instead, and deny that I'm angry. Note that I do the exact same thing with social phobia and that it works pretty well (I'm a fully functional socially inept person).
I don't get angry easily, and I got very good at pretending I'm not. So basically people know me as the one who never gets angry. And the one who is never anxious (haha).
However today I realized I haven't eaten all day and I have a headache (which never happens to me). I've noticed before, when keeping frustrations "under control", that I can have external symptoms like headache, skin rash, or stomac pain.
Note: When I push anger away, I really do believe myself that I'm not angry.
So I'm wondering... Would it be more healthy to hit a pillow or something?
What do you think? How do you deal with it?