Avery
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I'm just wondering if anyone has any thoughts on this. Is it possible to accept being forever dateless or friendless, etc., without becoming embittered?
To put a personal spin on the topic, I'm a 22-year-old avoidant, love-shy (if you accept the validity of that signifier) virgin, and bar some miracle or self-transformation I'll probably always be this way. What I want is to be able to accept the fact that this is who I am without becoming an embittered asshole. As it stands, a naive hope nags at me every now and then that I'll find someone or that things will get better -- hope that inevitably becomes despair when another identical day/week/month/year races by.
I don't want the damn hope, but I don't want the bitterness that comes with forsaking it. Maybe I'm asking for the impossible, but I just want a peaceful acceptance of what for me is likely inevitable. I want to accept that I'll never have a girlfriend/get married/have kids as comfortably as I can accept that I'll never be an astronaut or a pro quarterback or the president. Then maybe I can move on and find comfort and joy in other, lesser things.
I'm sure some others can relate in one way or another. Any thoughts?
To put a personal spin on the topic, I'm a 22-year-old avoidant, love-shy (if you accept the validity of that signifier) virgin, and bar some miracle or self-transformation I'll probably always be this way. What I want is to be able to accept the fact that this is who I am without becoming an embittered asshole. As it stands, a naive hope nags at me every now and then that I'll find someone or that things will get better -- hope that inevitably becomes despair when another identical day/week/month/year races by.
I don't want the damn hope, but I don't want the bitterness that comes with forsaking it. Maybe I'm asking for the impossible, but I just want a peaceful acceptance of what for me is likely inevitable. I want to accept that I'll never have a girlfriend/get married/have kids as comfortably as I can accept that I'll never be an astronaut or a pro quarterback or the president. Then maybe I can move on and find comfort and joy in other, lesser things.
I'm sure some others can relate in one way or another. Any thoughts?