fear, anger, misery--all of that can hinder or prevent a person from progressing in life. which makes sense because the opposite of those things are love, faith, happiness, compassion, courage, peace, etc. which opens the door for the possibilities of growing. You grow by opening up to people and letting people in, which results in discovering parts of yourself that others will recognize and they have their own ideas about you. And I know how tempting it is to tell people that they don't really know you as well as yourself but in reality, even you don't know yourself well enough. btw, is this a response to a comment I posted on a thread that I don't quite remember? :-/