SotiCoto
Banned
Maybe. Maybe not.Well, I just want to say that I'm glad that others have experienced what I'm experiencing. But, how do we know that these thoughts are acceptable? Is it because they're thoughts and not actions?
Does anyone remember the Russel Williams case? About that women who said that she didn't want to die? Although I feel a slight groinal response to that, my thoughts about that case are those of anger and depression, not arousal or excitement or whatever...Real life things like that case are nightmares.
Maybe my feelings towards real life sexual abuse and evil mean that I'm not as messed up as I think I am.
There is a divide between the intents and opinions of the thinking mind... and the biases, agenda and quirks of the body... or the subconscious... however one wishes to define it.
So far as I can tell, most do not distinguish between the two. They consider themselves a united entity... and make no attempt to consider the inconsistencies in opinion that arise between rational consideration of intent and ... well... feelings. Worse yet (from my perspective), they tend to side with the feelings more often than not... believing it "more honest".
Of course it isn't.
A mind and body can hold different opinions.
The mind and body both, on an individual basis, can also harbour conflicting or contradictory ideas... though there is usually a contextual divide between them.
The point is that it doesn't have to add up.
You can be a perfectly nice person in general terms, and STILL get aroused by someone's humiliation. Trying to reconcile the two is pointless. The trick is just to stop them coming into conflict.