All right, Kool, you have social phobia and maybe finding gay friends is not feasible. (Although I'm gay, and I also have a history of OCD. I'll be your friend, at least in the context of this forum.) When I had OCD, and it really is not that bad anymore, one thing I discovered is that I could reduce a fear by intellectualizing the object of fear. If I obsessed about the physical world not being real -- as a kid I actually did obsess about that -- then I could make the obsession go away by reading intellectual treatments of the topic, e.g. the Meditations of Descartes. As for homosexuality, it is easy to find intellectual treatments of that. Try reading Plato's Phaedrus and really attempt to process it intellectually. [
http://classics.mit.edu/Plato/phaedrus.html]
I gave similar advice to someone here who was (or is, still?) obsessing about symmetry. I suggested he read mathematical and scientific books about symmetry. It is, after all, a huge topic. Mathematicians have written a lot about it. The point is to shift the focus away from the fear centers of your brain to the more cognitive centers.