cobalt_bluester
Well-known member
Hi and thanks for taking the time to take a look at my post.
I have been having a severe problems with eye contact now for about 20 years or so, there's much more to it than just shyness and avoidance although this does play a small part...
My problem has gradually gotten worse over the years. It's difficult to describe, but I have tremendous difficulty making eye contact with anyone or anything with a pair of eyes. I have to try and decide which eye to look at!! When I am looking at one eye at a time I get distracted (and stressed out) by the other eye and it's like there's a sort of distortion and I am not seeing the eyes and face quite correctly or comfortably.
I am all too aware that under a natural, normal gaze my eyes should move from left to right automatically and subconsciously, but because I am so acutely aware of this process my eyes will not move left to right without deliberate and conscious instruction. I hope this kind of makes sense to those of you reading this, I have tried to explain what is a bizarre problem as best as I can.
I was wondering if anyone can relate to this issue or understand some of what I am going through - it is pure hell believe me!! I have tried coping methods like looking at the bridge of the nose and the eyebrow but it just doesn't seem to help as I am always distracted by looking into the eyes and the process of it. I guess I am just hyper aware of my eye movements to the extent that natural relaxed eye movement has become virtually non existant.
Please help me, I am getting very desperate with this horrible problem and don't know what I can do to try and improve things I am getting desperately ill with stress and depression and thinking that life isn't worth living anymore.
Yours,
Richard
I have been having a severe problems with eye contact now for about 20 years or so, there's much more to it than just shyness and avoidance although this does play a small part...
My problem has gradually gotten worse over the years. It's difficult to describe, but I have tremendous difficulty making eye contact with anyone or anything with a pair of eyes. I have to try and decide which eye to look at!! When I am looking at one eye at a time I get distracted (and stressed out) by the other eye and it's like there's a sort of distortion and I am not seeing the eyes and face quite correctly or comfortably.
I am all too aware that under a natural, normal gaze my eyes should move from left to right automatically and subconsciously, but because I am so acutely aware of this process my eyes will not move left to right without deliberate and conscious instruction. I hope this kind of makes sense to those of you reading this, I have tried to explain what is a bizarre problem as best as I can.
I was wondering if anyone can relate to this issue or understand some of what I am going through - it is pure hell believe me!! I have tried coping methods like looking at the bridge of the nose and the eyebrow but it just doesn't seem to help as I am always distracted by looking into the eyes and the process of it. I guess I am just hyper aware of my eye movements to the extent that natural relaxed eye movement has become virtually non existant.
Please help me, I am getting very desperate with this horrible problem and don't know what I can do to try and improve things I am getting desperately ill with stress and depression and thinking that life isn't worth living anymore.
Yours,
Richard