Would you get married?

This is stemming off of the funeral post (thank you to the person who suggested we start a topic on this, as I am curious to see the responses to this, too.)

Do think you will ever marry? Do you want to marry? If so, what sort of wedding would you want? A big celebration or a private ceremony? Who would you invite? Any thoughts on marriage and SA in general? If anyone on here is married, what was your wedding like?

Personally i dont have any hope that will happen, do i want too, yeah. But i knew i'll be alone forever when i was 10 so i never thought about it. I just got freak out when i was talking with a girl when i said i wouldnt be a doctor because it needs a lot of hours a day at job. And she say yeah because you wouldbn't be with your wife & family. And i just realized it was never in my plans to get married.

I kind of consider that if i get married that will mean i am kind of better i am more normal, and certainly i will like that but i dont expect that will ever happen . Have anyone get married thinking it was a step on the right direction and found it didnt change things a lot?

I was never big into the idea of marriage - ever. I guess it's a mixture of reasons.

I never liked celebrations of most sorts - weddings (other peoples), parties, proms, graduation, graduation celebrations, all that stuff. I guess it's exhausting and not very fun for me. Plus, from a SA standpoint, I can't imagine walking down an aisle in front of a room of people, exchanging vows, dancing! (I never really slow danced in my life..), having pictures taken of me, kissing and throwing cake in someone's face in front of others, and all that jazz and attention.

If I ever were to marry, as silly as this sounds, I would rather elope somewhere. Just me and my partner. I'd even do Vegas. Or just something quiet between the two of us.

My biggest worry is that my partner will want a traditional wedding and find it weird that I do not. That is why I don't know if I ever will get married. Plus, I have no one to invite outside my family and maybe one friend. And I wonder if my partner or others will think I'm less of a woman for not wanting a traditional wedding. Would my partner be okay with that? Is a man more likely to be okay with this - or think I'm a weirdo for not wanting a wedding?

There are other reasons that I am not into marriage anyway. First, I don't believe that you have to be married to be committed to someone. The idea of a life partner is more desirable to me than being married legally. Also, I am big on gay rights. So, I don't really want to marry until everyone else can marry.

Who knows, maybe my SA has contributed to my anti-marriage views. Though, perhaps it's a mixture of everything I've mentioned above. I've made it clear to a couple of my ex BFs that I didn't believe in marriage. I guess it is easier to look like I am going against the grain, than admitting I don't have anyone to invite or the will to have an actual wedding celebration.

no chance! no bloody way! cause i couldnt afford the divorce!

If it was important to her then It would be important to me.I'd kinda like to get married and live happy ever after.

I couldn't care less about the details, I'd rather spend 6 weeks on our honeymoon than fund a extravagant party. But it wouldn't be my decision

I want to get married to alot of different women all at the same time

philly2bits said:

I want to get married to alot of different women all at the same time

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Move to Utah ::

Never. I can't even make friends.

I wanted to get married, but committing to someone for the rest of my life is scary to me. Also there is a high divorce rate for the type of job I will be starting in January, so i'm beginning to change my mind on the whole marriage thing.

Moonie said:

This is stemming off of the funeral post (thank you to the person who suggested we start a topic on this, as I am curious to see the responses to this, too.)

Do think you will ever marry? Do you want to marry? If so, what sort of wedding would you want? A big celebration or a private ceremony? Who would you invite? Any thoughts on marriage and SA in general? If anyone on here is married, what was your wedding like?

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I don't think I will ever get the opportunity to marry someone, mainly because of SA and depression. I would LOVE, give everything I own to be married to the right lady. If I were so lucky to get married, I would want a small outdoor wedding, in some beautiful state forest by a waterfalls or someplace that has scenic beauty... I would only want to invite just immediate family and friends. Keep it small and simple and as low cost as possible.

One day when Im in my thirties I'll get married. But probably not happily married. I'll probably end up settling for someone I don't like. Gonna meet her through some sort of blind date arranged by our parents. yep..

If I have to marry someone. That's fine as long as she doesn't try to control my life or tell me what to do. 'cause that's no different than a life sentence in prison.

Although not right now, I think some day, several decades later, I would actuall very much WANT to get married. I'll be wanting a kind of stability and routine to my life; I'd get tired of being a rebel & an outcast. I'll be wanting to experience having a family; and watch my kids grow etc.

I dont think so...a long time ago.I told everyone i probly wont ever be married..cause the bitch that left me for a truck driver after 3 years together ruined my mojo & i got fat for a long time in my hurt & dispair...so i knew I wasent boyfriend material let alone marrige material...so i basicly gave up on ever having that happen.well that was about 17 years ago now...I have lost alot of weight & am in lot better shape but i think im still not marrige material yet cause I have no job..or my own place...& now...in a few years I may as well forget about it for good cause i wont be attractive to anyone because they will think theres something wrong with me because Iv never been hitched in 40 years time..thats clearly a red flag to most I bet...oh god..am i only 3 years away from that

As much as I'd love to get married one day, I just can't see it happening. I've never been seen as partnership material by ladies my own age, although old ladies adore me!

I'm not sure what kind of ceremony I'd want to have. Although I am partial to all things related to "the olden days." But the guest list would assuredly contain a large selection of rich and beautiful women who would be S.O.L. (---- outta luck).

Honestly, if I were to get married, it would probably be to someone similar to my twin sister. She's marrying what one could describe as another version of me in November, so if it's good for the goose....

Nay. I think it would drive me round the bend.

maybe depends on if i could trust her to last out the course you'd be surprized at the amount of people with commitment or intimacy issues who can often appear very confident on the outside but be crippled by low self esteem and those issues on the inside. i'd not rush into anything too soon....as my experiences with women in general have been pretty bad.

Well I'm going to not too long after I turn 21. I won't have a big fancy wedding. Something private and personal with only family and very few friends. I never wanted something extravagant. I still don't know about the kind of dress I'll have. We're both, honestly, clueless about weddings! XD

My wedding in the future will be an interesting one....two very different cultural/traditional ceremonies,.... two religions....

Both sides will want their way as the main....

I hate it when parents/family/elders put stupid culture and tradition in front of their kids/grand kids happiness.... Their priorities are all wrong

Wedding will be simple and small,...I am preparing to disappoint a few people traditionally, culturally and expectation wise from both sides...... there is no way to avoid this unfortunately. haha

I am against the concept of marriage and will not marry anyone. I want a monogamous/exclusive romantic relationship - there is no need for an artificial structure, like a marriage, to stabilize such a bond. If there is, then this very need defeats the purpose of the marriage itself.

I deem celebrations of any kind a pointless waste of time.

klytus said:

I am against the concept of marriage and will not marry anyone. I want a monogamous/exclusive romantic relationship - there is no need for an artificial structure, like a marriage, to stabilize such a bond. If there is, then this very need defeats the purpose of the marriage itself.

I deem celebrations of any kind a pointless waste of time.

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artificial structure point of view I understand... but what about symbolic type celebrations? Such as a moment of silence.... or a simple candle being lit.. or writing and dedicating a poem/song etc