Would you forgive me?

I just got out of counselling over an issue that I am having a very hard time forgiving myself for.
I want to see if what I did would be forgiven, generally, particularly with an explaination and proper apology. In breif, I made an akward move on a woman years ago and kissed her on a bar patio, and touched her butt under her pants very breifly. I feel horrible about what a I did- though I have no idea if she was as offended- or offended at all- as I lead myself to beleive.
Essentially, I know that what I did was wrong, and at the very least immature and stupid. It was a product of curiousity, inexperince and alcohol, and though these are not excuses, I want to ensure that my actions were not meant to be harmful or malicious. I was going through a phase where I thought I might be afriad of physical connections with people because I had so few- and felt that perhaps those that went out and got those experiences were better off for it. I didn't know what or how I was going into it. I did the butt touch, I beleive, because it happened (with both parties) on a rare earlier occasions years ago. I guess it brought me back to that.
Would you forgive someone if they did this, particularly if they told you what I did?
I just want to be sure that I am not a monster or terrible, horrible person. I acknowledge my mistake and am sorry for it.

you can read the WHOLE long story here if you are so inclined (Yahoo! Canada Answers - Any advice untill I return to therapy in the morning?)

This sort of reassurance seeking is very common in OCD but in my experience it does very little to alleviate the obsession. I have a friend who is constantly seeking reassurances regarding her own obsessions but I often get the feeling that she isn't even listening to my response. Since it is only enabling the obsession it is probably better if I don't answer this question.

You don't seem like a bad guy. It seems you were just confused. In all honesty, it doesn't even sound like that terrible of a thing. You were all just drunk at the bar.

DekKO said:

You don't seem like a bad guy. It seems you were just confused. In all honesty, it doesn't even sound like that terrible of a thing. You were all just drunk at the bar.

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Exactly.

If I was the woman, I would think very little of it. Typical drunk male! I might be a little embarrassed, but that's about it.

tottenhamhotspur said:

Would you forgive someone if they did this, particularly if they told you what I did?
I just want to be sure that I am not a monster or terrible, horrible person. I acknowledge my mistake and am sorry for it.

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I think you answered your own question.I really think the only thing's which can't be forgiven are thing's people refuse to be sorry for or don't acknowledge as a mistake.

The fact you feel so troubled by this speaks volumes about you and your good nature in my opinion.As for the mistake it's self,I honestly think you just made a bad judgement call probably due to the alcohol like other people have said.

I hope you are able to forgive yourself,you really should not be beating yourself up over this if you can help it.

chill dude you can touch my butt all you like id have forgiven you

Most of us here have probably done foolish things in a bar under the influence of alcohol which we regret later. I know I have, and I am a woman. Of course when I was partying in bars starting in the late 70's and well into the 80's, perceptions and attitudes were alot different but the partying is still the same.

I would forgive you of course!!! But I agree with Danfalc. You have to forgive yourself.

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