Women checking me out

LookingForward

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You're more confident when you are with someone and notice other people more.

When you're not with someone you're looking at your feet and notice nothing...
 

LazyHermitCrab

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I dunno maybe. Since i've been with my bf more girls have checked him out. This is because it shows that he can handle a relationship. I do the opposite though. If i see a guy with a girl i only look at the girl and smile because it's cute.
 

Gaucho

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it gives you social proof having a girlfriend an automatically you seem more attractive and you probably seem more more confident the when you are alone.
 

satstrn

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Thanks for your thoughts. I guess it's all about sexual attraction. Women especially claim to be attracted to a man's personality, but I believe this to be false. My theory is that a man's experience level is comparable to a woman's looks/body in terms of sexual attraction. The more experience a man has and the more often he is with women, the more confident and therefore sexually attractive he becomes. The more a woman works on her body, the more attractive she becomes. So while most men will look at an attractive woman with a nice body, most women will look at men who are interacting with other women for a similar reason. I think the longer a man is with a woman, the more important their personalities and the compatibility of those personalities become. This is just my theory, but I don't think sexual attraction has anything at all to do with personality. Interesting dynamic....very primal.
 

jaim38

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Thanks for your thoughts. I guess it's all about sexual attraction. Women especially claim to be attracted to a man's personality, but I believe this to be false. My theory is that a man's experience level is comparable to a woman's looks/body in terms of sexual attraction. The more experience a man has and the more often he is with women, the more confident and therefore sexually attractive he becomes. The more a woman works on her body, the more attractive she becomes. So while most men will look at an attractive woman with a nice body, most women will look at men who are interacting with other women for a similar reason. I think the longer a man is with a woman, the more important their personalities and the compatibility of those personalities become. This is just my theory, but I don't think sexual attraction has anything at all to do with personality. Interesting dynamic....very primal.

I don't agree because I wouldn't be attracted to a guy who sleeps around with lots of women, but then that's just me and may not apply to the vast majority of women out there.
 
This answer is broken down into three subsections:

1./ The obvious one is that you just generally interact alot more in public with strangers of all kinds when you yourself are NOT alone. Being with a partner, or a group, providing that you are not offputting in your connectedness (i.e dangerous looking gang ok kids, deliberately shock valued dressed couple etc) will make you interact much more naturally with your environment.

2./ The other point is what many people pointed out which is that many girls will definately look at a couple who seem: sweet, cute, romantic etc any adjective which combines being benign with romantic. If you look sweet but harmless girls might like it.

3./ This is the big one that alot of people on here seem to be denying. There are a plethora of girls who absolutely check out guys who are with partners. This is done for two reasons. The girls on the one hand will find the men more appealing if they're with someone, but on the other hand will definately feel a compulsion to 'prove' that they are alluring to that man. In other words to get satisfaction out of knowing that while with their girlfriend a man will 'still' need to check them out because they're so attractive. It's a very common cause of arguments between couples that a girl is upset because she catches her boyfriend looking at another woman. My brother, who was the antithesis of me in terms of social success told me about this once. When he lived in central London whenever he was in the streets with a girl, particularly an extremely attractive one, the number of other women checking him out would treble. He was often looked at by women anyway; however, he definately noticed that there was a big slightly unsettling increase when with a beautiful partner. I'd imagine that all of this stuff is increased MASSIVELY when in an environment like a flashy city centre with hordes of beautiful girls are trying to look their best. The better looking and the more likely I think you will find this problem.
 

Nathália

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Thanks for your thoughts. I guess it's all about sexual attraction. Women especially claim to be attracted to a man's personality, but I believe this to be false. My theory is that a man's experience level is comparable to a woman's looks/body in terms of sexual attraction. The more experience a man has and the more often he is with women, the more confident and therefore sexually attractive he becomes. The more a woman works on her body, the more attractive she becomes. So while most men will look at an attractive woman with a nice body, most women will look at men who are interacting with other women for a similar reason. I think the longer a man is with a woman, the more important their personalities and the compatibility of those personalities become. This is just my theory, but I don't think sexual attraction has anything at all to do with personality. Interesting dynamic....very primal.


There are so many personality types, preferences and sexualities in this world. There can be many reasons that they look more or why you think they do. Someone having a nice body, does not make me attracted to them or just by looks. Sexual attraction to me happens when I fall in love with someone. So many people can be different in how they feel sexual attraction. Thinking that someone has a nice body or looks does not always mean that people want to have sex with them or want be with them. Someone can look nice but people may not like how they carry themselves, so many scenarios in life.

I don't give a damn about a persons experience level in relationship, whether they had many loves, a few or never. There are many details that I look in a person to see if they're suitable.
 
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JackOfSpades

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There are so many personality types, preferences and sexualities in this world. There can be many reasons that they look more or why you think they do. Someone having a nice body, does not make me attracted to them or just by looks. Sexual attraction to me happens when I fall in love with someone. So many people can be different in how they feel sexual attraction. Thinking that someone has a nice body or looks does not always mean that people want to have sex with them or want be with them. Someone can look nice but people may not like how they carry themselves, so many scenarios in life.

I don't give a damn about a persons experience level in relationship, whether they had many loves, a few or never. There are many details that I look in a person to see if they're suitable.

Sometimes I don't think we're the best cross section for these kind of debates. I think we may be more likely to value certain things than the general population that is diverse in some ways we are not from each other.
 

Richey

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I don't really care either way, because you can see it in so many ways.
And people do that its best to just not care.

you can say that the person walking alone is independent and doesn't need someone else tagging along, so that makes them less of an approval junkie and less desperate for a friend or partner to follow them around places.

you can say that the couple look happy, good for them.

you can say visa versa to both.

so i think its best to not even think about it.

I don't bother with the attraction thing based on looking at someone i don't know, because its pointless and its more likely to be dissapointing.

If a girl striked up a conversation with me no matter how she looks, i find that way more interesting because it takes guts to do that. I know that when i've done that in the past, it makes that persons day, not always, but you get what i mean.

To put it another way, I used to be friends with a girl from classes, but our relationship was more brother/sister because we annoyed each other, because we knew each other well through interactions, i wasn't focussed on that she was good looking, because the looks thing passes really quickly, i dont mean that in a rude way at all, i just mean that when you hang out with people, or you are friends with them, then its more about the personality and the communication, the banter then it is the looks. (something to remember next time you go out somewhere and you see people all dressed to impress).

Looks pass really quickly, friendship is what keeps a relationship going.

Back to the original post of this thread. I'm sure females find it cute, they probably do and they are showing you respect for not hiding your affection.
 
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Nathália

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Sometimes I don't think we're the best cross section for these kind of debates. I think we may be more likely to value certain things than the general population that is diverse in some ways we are not from each other.

Jack, I don't think I am sure of what you're saying and I want to be certain. Who is "we" referring to? Are you talking about not holding onto traditional values?
 

JackOfSpades

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"We" referring to social phobics or introverted personality types. I think "we" may as a whole have more traditional values. And certain values that aren't represented at the same concentration level as people who don't fall into this specific demographic.

If I'm thinking clearly.
 
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