Sponglewang said:
Go out dancing, get fucked up and ave a good time.
Even if u r the worst dancer in the world I gurantee if u look like u are having a good time ppl will like you and will want to talk to you... girls and guys.
You won't necassarily get laid but it's a start.
You gotta put yourself out there and have confidance in urself even if it's false confidance. If u portray a confidant demeanour ppl will actually think u r confidant.
Even if u r as ugly as sin it dosent matter, you'll just have to work a bit harder.
DON'T GIVE UP!!!
What if some people don't enjoy that as a recreation though? ...i like to dance, i'm not a great dancer, just casual but i dont like the crampy feeling and the music that is generally played at bars, nor do i like dancing amongst people ive never met before, but people do it and that is fine, i like seeing live bands, and i go all the time, thats a great way for me to meet other people, but clubs are not my thing, i only go if i have to, you can meet people by being outside alot, being involved in a sport, night classes of study, walking around in the city, festivals ..
So i think meeting people depends on your interests and just getting out, it doesnt have to be dancing or going to a bar, which i personally don't enjoy doing, i'll go if its a must, but i just dont find clubs a comfortable environment, everyone is dolled up and drinking, the (generic) music is loud so you cant hear people, i personally find it an intimidating place to go to and some people are more wired for it then others, im not a big drinker as i cant stand the taste of most alcoholic drinks, but i drink for the after affect .. ...
Regarding appearance, i think i can understand, i wear trendy jeans and a funky t-shirt generally, but my hair can be an issue, it often looks messy yet i dont like it to short, not easy to maintain, the thing is i go out and everyone dresses up and looks like photoshopped acceserised models, especially girls, the fashion is tight punk jeans and perfectly sitting hair, and for guys everyone is colouring their hair and looking presentable all the time, its as if going out with casual clothes is becoming uncool, i agree that you should look presentable and i do but i find it so intimidating going to the shops or to a club where people look amazing, and i feel ordinary, im not ugly but i cant get over how people look so great all the time with styles now days ...
if everybody walked around casually looking a complete mess in daggy clothes i think i wouldnt be as intimidated, i dont know why i think like this but its just how i feel, really fit looking people intimidate me no end, its like they are from anothe rplanet or something, weird i know ..