Why are we so afraid?

yohannes

Well-known member
Why are we so afraid?

We all know the soluting to our SA. Their are treatment like CBT, ACT, and medication. If you follow up on one of these treatement their is a great chance you will be able to overcome your SA. But it seems that most of us are afraid to get better or are afraid what we must do to get better. May be we are afriad of the anxiety or the hard work that will require to get their. At list for me I know I am scared of both. It is our nature to be scare of changed wehter it’s good or bad. The funniest thing is that life is about change. We cry and scream out our mother , so we can live. If we stay in our mother we die. The same can be said about SA, anxiety, or depression. We are use to our anxiety or SA the thought of being free of our SA kind of scares as and intimidates us. Their are days when we decide that ok I will do everything in my power to get rid of my SA. Then we follow up on our promise for a while then we give up. We give up why? I think we give up, becuase we don’t realized to get better we need to sacrifice our fears and doubts. Fear of change we must accept that if we wish to get better we must accept change
 

no1

Banned
I am afraid of medication. The cheapest option for me is to go to the psychiatric hospital nearby where I have a large possibility of being baker acted, and forced to take really debilitating medications. I can't see a psychotherapist first without going through a psychiatrist who has the power to baker act me for anything SHE deems is something to take me in, and give me really harsh meds, be around a bad environment, with poor quality treatment, etc.. They can take me to court and keep me in there for even longer if I dont take meds.

I get sent a large bill of thousands which I can't pay from the hospital because I stayed there, and I have no say in the matter.

the fact that I might be misdiagnosed by doctors. Misunderstood, given poor quality treatment, etc.

Also.. it is the cheapest, but still quite expensive, without medical insurance which is really expensive, or medicaid which I think I don't qualify even though I need to see if I do qualify, but I am almost positive I don't. Of course they dont take into account expenses, or the fact that I dont make money.

The other options of going to a private psychotherapists are quite expensive. They can still baker act me but the chance is probably lower.

the other option is to go to a church and possibly find a therapist who can give therapy for free.

this system is F-ed up.

I can't do anything about it because I am bound to be misunderstood and isolated by EVERYONE.

maybe there is still hope. I can hope that spending lots of money on a private therapist might help me in the long run. same as going to a church therapist or whatever.. and I'm not into religion at all.
 

lyricalliaisons

Well-known member
For me, I've had this my whole life & if I could make it go away, I would. I just started medication.. a low dose.. & am not sure how well it's going to work. Seeing as how I've had it forever, my guess is that it won't make much difference. As for CBT, my therapist & I were discussing this just yesterday. I know it will not work for me because my "thoughts" are not the problem. It's not my thoughts. I don't have negative thoughts before the situation.. my fear arises while I am in the situation. She doesn't agree.. doesn't understand my situation at all. As for ACT, I don't know what it is.. have never heard of it, so I don't know whether it would help or not.
 

licorice

Well-known member
Maybe not beating yourself up everytime you experience a setback may help?The fact that you want to change and improve your situation is half the battle as many people choose just to continue on the way they are...For the 100 times you try and fail it may be that one time you succeed that will make it all worth it...That perhaps little dose of success may be just the motivation you need to keep trying in lieu of giving up all together...
 
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