When is it the right time to leave?

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Rodney

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I have this problem where if I am going to a friend's place I have no idea when it is appropriate to leave. There has been more than several times this year where I was invited to go to a friend's house/family occasions and reluctantly went. While there, I would end up feeling really uncomfortable and leaving an hour after arriving (sometimes with out even an explanation (Ex. "I have to go, bye" and then walking out the door all with in 30secs). Its not like I had a reason to leave. I had no where I had to go.

Would this seem weird to them and is it appropriate to just leave like this?
And have you had a similar experience?

I think if I could go back I would have just avoided these events completely. ::eek::
 
recluse

recluse

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I can't stay in anyones house for long, i want to go home to my comfort zone. I get so bored in peoples houses.
 
PennyLane

PennyLane

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Rodney said:
I (sometimes with out even an explanation (Ex. "I have to go, bye" and then walking out the door all with in 30secs). Its not like I had a reason to leave. I had no where I had to go.
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Please don't be offended because thats not how I mean it...but my god this made me laugh so much. I have this image of you (not that I can picture you) just saying goodbye and walking out of the door really suddenly...

this might catch them off guard I think. Why do you leave?
 
iamthenra

iamthenra

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I leave abruptly when I am at a party. My friend usually invites me over to his house whenever he throws a party. Since nobody wants to talk to me, I am usually by myself trying to find something to do... So I usually maintain the fire that my friend has outdoors, while everyone is busy talking and drinking making fools of themselves... I start to feel like an outcast, and I usually become very depressed because there usually are pretty ladies there and everyone is talking to them and there I stand with a log in my hand feeding the fire, which is only entertaining for so long... Then I abruptly leave, because nobody would miss me one bit except for someone that liked the toasty fire.... When I leave, I don't even bother saying goodbye, because everyone is busy socializing. It is times like that I want to end my life, because I just don't fit in.
 
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Rodney

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PennyLane said:
Please don't be offended because thats not how I mean it...but my god this made me laugh so much. I have this image of you (not that I can picture you) just saying goodbye and walking out of the door really suddenly...

this might catch them off guard I think. Why do you leave?
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Don't worry you didn't offend me at all. :)

I dunno a couple of times I was high (don't smoke anymore).
Once was when I had just got high with my one friend and had only been there for 40 mins and it was on a friday and I was like I think I'm going to go and he asked why and I was just like I dunno and left. The other time I was high at a restaraunt which was hard enough but everyone at my table I felt like they didn't like me and I had really bad paranoia so I had my sister drive to the restaurant and when she got there I just said I g2g and quickly walked out the door, we hadn't even ordered yet.

When I wasn't high I just felt really uncomfortable and felt as if they were mixing rude remarks into some of their comments and I couldn't take it.

Does anyone else have that problem where they feel like people always drop rude remarks into their comments and you can't tell if it was intentional or you just took it the wrong way? This happens a lot to me.
 
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Rodney

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iamthenra said:
I leave abruptly when I am at a party. My friend usually invites me over to his house whenever he throws a party. Since nobody wants to talk to me, I am usually by myself trying to find something to do... So I usually maintain the fire that my friend has outdoors, while everyone is busy talking and drinking making fools of themselves...
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Oh God that is horrible! I would leave too... :cool: I'm no better at parties, the few that I have gone to consists of me not leaving the one or two people I know there's sides and I feel like I'm just a bothersome to them. :confused:
 
Mikefly

Mikefly

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Rodney said:
I have this problem where if I am going to a friend's place I have no idea when it is appropriate to leave. There has been more than several times this year where I was invited to go to a friend's house/family occasions and reluctantly went. While there, I would end up feeling really uncomfortable and leaving an hour after arriving (sometimes with out even an explanation (Ex. "I have to go, bye" and then walking out the door all with in 30secs). Its not like I had a reason to leave. I had no where I had to go.

Would this seem weird to them and is it appropriate to just leave like this?
And have you had a similar experience?

I think if I could go back I would have just avoided these events completely. ::eek::
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Sounds like a control thing or being in control, for example you say you don't know when to leave and feel uncomfortable but you won't feel the same at your house because your more in control. Another example is riding with someone, I don't like to ride with other people , i like to drive my own car and they ride with me. It's a control issue because you feel helpless when your not in control.
 
mrb

mrb

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dont go to partys i like my own company , i prefer to go mountain biking , or weight lifting , or swimming , guess im just a adrenline junkie , most of my family are 2 faced anyway , but i do go fishing with my mate and get on well with people at work
 
Noca

Noca

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If you wanna leave just say "i gotta go, I just remembered that something is on somewhere, bye"
 
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sorrow1

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I just leave when i want now but when my anxiety was at its worst I wold have the opposite problem i would always be one of the last to leave because i would be too afraid to suddenly get up and have all eyes on me when i said goodbye. I would feel like I was offending someone if I left early so I would sit feeling increasingly more uncomfortable. At certain times I would think about leaving and then someone would strike up a new conversation and i didnt want to interupt it to say goodbye so I would just sit there feeling stressed and bored.
 
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Kinetik

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The last time I went to a social gathering at someone's house I drank so much that I fell asleep while sitting at their kitchen table. I woke up half an hour later with beer all over my lap. It wasn't even some crazy party or anything, I just went overboard and started becoming really drowsy. So you could always try that, although it comes highly unrecommended.
 
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Kinetik said:
The last time I went to a social gathering at someone's house I drank so much that I fell asleep while sitting at their kitchen table. I woke up half an hour later with beer all over my lap. It wasn't even some crazy party or anything, I just went overboard and started becoming really drowsy. So you could always try that, although it comes highly unrecommended.
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that happens to me on a dayly basis:D

(how do you spell dayly!)

fk it
 
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Kinetik

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FOR REAL said:
that happens to me on a dayly basis:D

(how do you spell dayly!)

fk it
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Daily. :D And I take back what I said about it being not recommended. I mean now that I properly think about it, if you don't know when to leave, the next best thing is to have someone tell you to piss off. :D
 
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Kinetik said:
Daily. :D And I take back what I said about it being not recommended. I mean now that I properly think about it, if you don't know when to leave, the next best thing is to have someone tell you to piss off. :D
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less of the bad language! you may get banned! :D
 
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