When did you get your first girlfriend/boyfriend?
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ive clicked 18, but to be honest i couldnt care less, theres more to life than sex! and i should know, cause ive ive got 3 litres of the stuff in the fridge
oh wait i might of worded that wrong, paranoia time, i meant 3 litres of gin :
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mrb
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Uber Schnitzel
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I think I had a little girlfriend when I was five but it was more the kind of relationship where you chase each other and try and push each others head into the dirt. :: But my first real relationship, proper, sexual relationship was when I was 16
: But my first real relationship, proper, sexual relationship was when I was 16
Uber Schnitzel
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I have been single all my current life. When it does happen it will be a really big
deal for me. I worry I will get disappointed however as all the tension will have lead up for
so long.
Well time will tell I guess
If you find the "right one" you won't be dissapointed, trust me. Just do yourself a favour though and don't go for the first person who comes along just because they're there. It leads to nothing but trouble
So true- this is basically what I did.
I voted 19, that's when I got involved with my ex-husband. I was severely depressed and really wasn't ready(though didn't realize it), but I went along with him because he was into me, and I thought he was a decent guy, and convinced myself that I felt the same about him- plus I guess I kind of knew that there was something "off" about me and thought that I "should" be feeling that way and that probably no one better would come along for me as almost no one had given me any attention like that up to that point (19 feels old when you have zero experience- I did have a boyfriend in high school, but we were never really anything more than best friends, we barely even held hands).
Years later when I came out of my depression, I realized that I didn't even like him, but now I still have to deal with him since we share children. But I don't regret anything that happened, I wouldn't dream of trading my kids- even if it meant not having to deal with his selfish, bullying ways.
redski
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Well, the thing for me is, if we define "the right" one as a person that is
right for you and that you are compatible with and want the same thing
at the same time
I wonder, wouldn't it take a few years to really find out if that person is the "right one" for you.
I always had an idea one cannot just fall in love over night. You can will yourself to believe so
but many years later when you reflect back at old
relationships you relize that you really were not in love with that person.
So for me finding the "right one" is not a bucket of gold at the end of the rainbow it will be months/years
experiencing each other before a statement like that can be made.
I am not experienced so I am just speaking my thoughts here.
right for you and that you are compatible with and want the same thing
at the same time
I wonder, wouldn't it take a few years to really find out if that person is the "right one" for you.
I always had an idea one cannot just fall in love over night. You can will yourself to believe so
but many years later when you reflect back at old
relationships you relize that you really were not in love with that person.
So for me finding the "right one" is not a bucket of gold at the end of the rainbow it will be months/years
experiencing each other before a statement like that can be made.
I am not experienced so I am just speaking my thoughts here.
mrb
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same as me and my kids, my ex was a nightmare as well , but as you im glad i went through all that crap cos i got my kids
I got my first girlfriend at 17. The anxiety that I suffer from isn't so much social, it's generalised, which could apply to social situations too fairly often I suppose (strong contradiction). I'm sure everybody here can relate, these kinds of things are daunting, but I didn't want to let what seemed like a perfect opportunity slip. I don't regret it all one bit. I told the girl about my anxiety problems and she was very understanding, she also said to me that in the beginning she's happy to take things at my pace, so that my anxiety problems weren't too overwhelming.
There are many people out there who do understand, or at least try hard to think inside the mind of somebody who deals with the anxiety that we all do.
There are many people out there who do understand, or at least try hard to think inside the mind of somebody who deals with the anxiety that we all do.
Falkor
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I was 13 years old when I had my first boyfriend.
But he wasn't really romantic so I was really annoyed by him ha ha ha
He was a computer-freak (i like computers too, but he was ALWAYS at the computer while i was with him) and he played Counter Strike all the time.
I like gaming, but I had to do alot to get him out of his house.
Oh and I broke up when he asked me to sex XD
I was too young ha ha ha
we don't have contact anymore because he was really pissed-off
But i dont mind.. He wasn't interested in my stories anyway
(my hobbies etc, always talking about games -_-)
But he wasn't really romantic so I was really annoyed by him ha ha ha
He was a computer-freak (i like computers too, but he was ALWAYS at the computer while i was with him) and he played Counter Strike all the time.
I like gaming, but I had to do alot to get him out of his house.
Oh and I broke up when he asked me to sex XD
I was too young ha ha ha
we don't have contact anymore because he was really pissed-off
But i dont mind.. He wasn't interested in my stories anyway
(my hobbies etc, always talking about games -_-)
numb embryonic
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Never had one, now in my 32nd year. I know the reasons. I was the late, very late physical bloomer type (mistaken for 14 at age 20 etc) and so was no girls physical type - nobody was physically attracted to me during that crucial period of teens through to middle 20s, and it was excruciating watching others click together and share intimacy whilst you were the one felt 'sorry for' (I hated being felt sorry for). No girls ever showed signs of interest in me, ever; no flirting, smiles, no flicks of hair or invitations to parties - nothing. I don't know of many guys that haven't had girls show signs of interest in them, even if they didn't take it up, it would be a massive confidence boost. It cut me up as would expect, and I never really got over it. It's probably the hardest thing for a guy - to accept women see him as a genetic miscreant.
Not given up hope, but I know I'm damaged goods forever. A 32 year old man with no experience is pitied on at the most mildest, you can't change peoples way of thinking negative like that. People want to know what you've been doing, and even question your orientation and development (is he gay? does he like children or something? is he asexual? is he retarded?). I can't say to a girl "I was treated badly by women in my past" can I? They'll just wipe you off. I'm not a virgin, I payed for an escort at 26 and no regret using such services again. I wouldn't want to be the aged guy (40+) with 0 sexual contact under his belt.
Not given up hope, but I know I'm damaged goods forever. A 32 year old man with no experience is pitied on at the most mildest, you can't change peoples way of thinking negative like that. People want to know what you've been doing, and even question your orientation and development (is he gay? does he like children or something? is he asexual? is he retarded?). I can't say to a girl "I was treated badly by women in my past" can I? They'll just wipe you off. I'm not a virgin, I payed for an escort at 26 and no regret using such services again. I wouldn't want to be the aged guy (40+) with 0 sexual contact under his belt.
iamthenra
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Thanks.... I'm 41 with no sexual contact under my belt...
I feel the same way.... My shrinks put allot of my problems blame on my mother for abusing me as a child.