Whats your response to people when they ask "whyre you so quiet"?

jennykins.3

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Soooooo many times people ask me this! I never know what to say. Now that ive been diagnosed with SA & i actually know why im quiet, are you suppose to tell them? I really dont want to. Its embarrasing& they will NOT understand. I usually just say i dunno & make it awkaward on purpose so theyll go away & ill be safe. Sometimes if they ask & it made me mad it goes like this:

person: "Whyre you so quiet..?"
me: "Whyre you so annoying?"
person " Blah blah blah" (didnt hear what they said cause i didnt listen)
me: (in my head) oh my gosh why did i say that now they hate me i prolly sounded stupid saying that this is why people never talk to me but if i just shrug my sholders then it wouldve been more awkward whats the difference it was still awkward i didnt mean it they just threw me off too late they hate me im dead. (never responded back to them cause im too busy fighting in my head)

Whats a more correct way to respond to "whyre you so quiet"?
Maybe a fun response thats funny? Im bad at talking to people..
 

nafadda

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years ago I thought I had to explain EVERYTHING to people..

now if someone askd why I am being so quite,I simply say: "because I don't have anything to say right now"

simple as that:cool:
 

9407

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I either shrug my shoulders or say "I don't know". From my personal experience, people that ask you that are just trying to make fun of you.
 

Iluv

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Sorry for the swearing lol
 

francesca2106

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I was actually told today "all you ever respond with is nervous laughter" and I was amazed that my immediate response was a rant about how people assume I'm quiet in general just because I don't talk to them. Everyone that tells me I'm quiet is totally right but I HATE when they tell me because, how do you respond to that? I wouldn't recommend yelling at everyone but I think what you said (person: "Whyre you so quiet..?"
me: "Whyre you so annoying?") is brilliant.
 

LittleKitty

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"Huh.. ummm" Then do a cute little smile. That always seems to work. =D ...then I quickly get away!

Yeah, I don't socialize very much.

What I would like to say...
Person: Why are you so quiet?
Me: Why wont you shut up?

Nah, I'm joking. =) What I would like to say "I'm just not a very talkative person"
 
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Griffin

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I usually give the excuse that I'm just tired. Sometimes that's true, I'm actually shattered, though sometimes it's just a handy excuse that people wouldn't be too surprised to hear.

I would never tell people that:

1. I'm not a great conversation or socialising - I think this puts people off; and/or

2. what they're talking about doesn't interest me - this would definitely put people off! ::eek::
 

The Lost

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"I'm tired", "don't know", "just am...", "bored", depends on the environment, but sometimes I'm tempted to just tell them to get lost.
 

ScaredToBreathe

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Soooooo many times people ask me this! I never know what to say. Now that ive been diagnosed with SA & i actually know why im quiet, are you suppose to tell them? I really dont want to. Its embarrasing& they will NOT understand. I usually just say i dunno & make it awkaward on purpose so theyll go away & ill be safe.
i do the exact same thing! like just shrug or say "i dunno" and it feels really awkward and now it's even more awkward since i know it's SA that's making me quiet and they wouldn't understand that if i explained it to them a million times over. i hate when people ask me that, it's just so frustrating! i think "why are you so annoying?" is a pretty good comeback but i'd never have enough confidence to talk back to someone like that! it would probably make them think i said that because i'm a stuck up b**ch, but never once cross their mind that maybe it's because i took offense to their question due to a life-long mental illness that's prevented me from talking and having a "normal" life.
 

Phoenixx

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Usually it's either "I don't know" or "I'm just really shy."

Add a quiet voice, blushing, some stuttering, and a splash of inferiority and that's my response.
 

MsBuzzkillington

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I usually say I don't know or I just shrug.

Sometimes I think about saying, I'd rather be thought a fool than to open my mouth and remove all doubt. But I am not sure if people would find that as funny as I do, it is pretty cheesy.
 

R3K

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as a child: stare at the ground and have an anxiety attack.

as a teenager: futilely try to explain that i like to talk about some stuff but that i'm not a small-talker etc, failing horribly and suffering an anxiety attack.

as an adult: i just say "i'm part japanese..." with a smirk:cool: and if i'm lucky only a minor anxiety attack.

another cool reply that i rarely use and is kinda hard to pull off i got from Leonardo Dicaprio in Gangs of New York... when someone asks why you don't talk or why you're so quiet you say something along the lines of: "maybe i'm just a deep thinker."
 
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