Whats wrong with me?
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combat
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I have no advice to offer, but I can certainly relate to this.
Dronee
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What are the things you need? Often, our problems seem insurmountable because we view the entirety of it all at once. Look at them, break them down into smaller ones... and those smaller chunks into even smaller ones until you can solve a small part of it at a time.
No doubt many of the problems are catch 22, but usually there will be at least some elements that can be directly affected by what you do. Even if every problem you have is strictly catch 22, then there's still ways you can improve in life. Exercise, get buffed, learn new programs that will benefit you, meditate, learn a new skill, set up an online career or a real life one... etc...
(just and example) Or if you're doing absolutely nothing at all apart from just being on the internet, you can use that to learn more about the internet, maybe gain computer or other forms of knowledge instead of just watching some youtube videos that don't benefit you... or you can watch the youtube videos that benefit you... get into something like Triond, begin to write...
As you achieve more than you do now, you can become more confident, or just more prepared, such that when opportunities arise, you are prepared to seize them. Take small steps that will benefit you and within your ability to do.
At least that's what I think.
No doubt many of the problems are catch 22, but usually there will be at least some elements that can be directly affected by what you do. Even if every problem you have is strictly catch 22, then there's still ways you can improve in life. Exercise, get buffed, learn new programs that will benefit you, meditate, learn a new skill, set up an online career or a real life one... etc...
(just and example) Or if you're doing absolutely nothing at all apart from just being on the internet, you can use that to learn more about the internet, maybe gain computer or other forms of knowledge instead of just watching some youtube videos that don't benefit you... or you can watch the youtube videos that benefit you... get into something like Triond, begin to write...
As you achieve more than you do now, you can become more confident, or just more prepared, such that when opportunities arise, you are prepared to seize them. Take small steps that will benefit you and within your ability to do.
At least that's what I think.
planemo
Well-known member
I wouldn't say there's anything wrong with you, but you do seem to exhibit the poor self esteem issues myself and many members here exhibit as well. Isolation and boredom does lead to negative thinking so maybe, if it's possible, you could try to involve yourself in more things in order to keep yourself occupied. That will help, although it's difficult to initiate. There is someone out there who will appreciate you for yourself, you just have to expose yourself enough to find that person. For me I just don't have the confidence to do that, so unless someone ideal falls from the sky, well, not much progress will occur. If you can gather the strength to go out and meet people in other ways, like joining a gym or joining a group or club, then you should.
Best of luck, I know how it feels to be utterly alone and feeling totally hopeless about any change.
Best of luck, I know how it feels to be utterly alone and feeling totally hopeless about any change.
yellowjello
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i dont think anything is wrong with you. you sound like a generaly open person that likes to share his thoughts and that you can have good conversations with. i obviously dont know you but thats the impression i got from the post.
as far as the dating sites are concerned hmm i wonder if its something you wrote in the emails perhaps? i dont know maybe they didnt even think anything would come off that site and they didnt go back or already started talking to someone? i wouldnt take it personal though, but i have to admit that i can understand why you did bc itd probably get to me too.
i agree with dronee and emu_noodles you should try to engadge in some activities and distract yourself from thinking too much about things. by joining a gym or taking some class at a community center you will meet more people and might even meet a nice girl. either way it will help you become more confident as you interact with people more and get positive feed back
good luck
as far as the dating sites are concerned hmm i wonder if its something you wrote in the emails perhaps? i dont know maybe they didnt even think anything would come off that site and they didnt go back or already started talking to someone? i wouldnt take it personal though, but i have to admit that i can understand why you did bc itd probably get to me too.
i agree with dronee and emu_noodles you should try to engadge in some activities and distract yourself from thinking too much about things. by joining a gym or taking some class at a community center you will meet more people and might even meet a nice girl. either way it will help you become more confident as you interact with people more and get positive feed back
good luck
Smurfette
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U r normal. I don't have all the answers but I know that dating won't solve ur problems. U must be happy with urself b4 dating. If they still reject u, then u won't feel as down about it. Most people I know struggle with finding a good date. It's best to focus on something else for now.
Alistair
Well-known member
Smurfette,
Yes, this is very very true. If you can't be happy yourself, and you don't have to understand yourself either, but long as your happy, you have a less of a chance of being rejected. So just stay upbeat best as you can, until something makes you happy comes along. This will really help out, IMO.