Wellington Social Anxiety.

shontz

New member
Thank you all for your replies. This topic has become dated and I dont know how to delete it. Im feeling alot better by the way. Awesome
 

slapstick

Well-known member
Poor you....

Hey i HOPE THIS has reached you in time b4 your conference started 2 help ease a bit of anxiety, I know it wont go away but less is always best. Look what I realized is that it starts with atitude, we can try to think as positively and as logically as we possibly can but it takes a whole lot more than a bit of air freshner to clear out da shit that you or I or many others here are faced with daily. Firstly the root of the problem is paramount, and its not always what we think it is, for instance we might typically think of something in the past that triggered it and settle with the fact that, that is what happened then, this is how i feel NOW, and thats how it's gonna be.. but thats not what we should be thinking..

For me I think alot of things contributed to my SA but now I am faced with the realisation that I was the factor in why it got out of hand and why it controlled me... I let it get control of me because I felt guilty of things in the past..whether it was how i HANDLED THIS OR THAT, HOW I TREATED OR MISTREATED PEOPLE IN MY LIFE, BEING BULLIED, BULLYING OTHERS; I REaLLY DONT KNOW.. But the guilt of whatever was in the past has haunted me, made me second guess myself, doubt myself and my abilities, hate myself at times, and subconsciously I thought I deserved it..

Now what I do know is that I always wanted better and who doesn't but until we forgive ourslves for the past and are willing tro become a new person that is when I believe we will be on track..

I am planning to tackle traits in my personality that are flawed, surely I gotta start with my atitude at myself and think hell i am worth it I dont deserve this bcos I was always caught in the same cycle of self-mental abuse and thats where we gotta tackle it ALRIGHT! HOPE YOU DO WELL

GOOD LUCK :wink:
 

Len

Well-known member
Hey Shontz

I am from Wellington and I have met someone on this website. We are hoping to add more people to our Social phobia club if you are interested.

Anyway, you could try visualising yourself at the conference. Think of yourself being relaxed, confident and smiling. Then visualise yourself as you shake hands with someone at the conference and smiling and developing a rapport with them. Even think of them laughing at your jokes.

The theory behind it is that you can trick your mind into thinking that you are confident, have been at the conference before and find it easy to talk to people.

At the moment you are probably thinking how you will be nervous and stutter or panic. When you get into the conference situation, your brain will remember this feeling because that is what you were expecting. So VISUALISE CONFIDENCE!

Anyway. Good luck!
 
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