Was it me?

Hi

I had a bad experience today and I am soo worried that it was caused by me but I just dont know.

I am doing a TAFE (AKA community college) course to introduce myself to autocad for the work that I do (computer programming). I am doing the course with my boss because he also wants to learn autocad.

Towards the end of class today my boss made an outburst something like "Are you f***ing kidding me" really angrily. I dont know why he was so angry but I am soo worried it was caused by me. Soon after he got angry he said he was "over using autocad today and needed to leave a bit early" (only like 5 mins early, the 6 hour class was almost over). But I worry he was just being polite and he was really angry about me.

Some background information:

• We sit side by side at computers learning autocad and he said it whilst looking at his computer.
• I hadn't said anything to him in about 15 mins, so I dont think it was what I said and another student on his other side did ask him a question right before he got angry. They asked him something like "How do you create a pit?"
• I feel so anxious in these situations (classrooms/around people) that I often come across as abrupt and rude because I speak in short sentences and have a frown. So I think he doesn't like me as it is and finds me a chore to be around and interact with. I also tend to sigh alot and I worry he may have gotten so sick of my sighing and just generally dealing with me that he had an outburst. Also I worry I have bad breath and that he had been putting up with it all day and finally couldn't take it anymore. He had also been sighing alot during the day. He is generally a very happy and nice person although he can get angry sometimes.
• Before he got angry, he had just returned from being out of the room, I think to the bathroom but he was gone only for a couple of mins so I dont know what he was doing. He got angry a couple of minutes after he returned and sat down.
• When the teacher teaches us something, she disables our computers so we watch her and not the computers. I know he doesn't quite like this and I think she had mentioned she was about to disable our computers after he sat back down but I dont quite remember. This may have been the cause. The teacher disabled our computers soon after he got angry 5 mins or so and my boss at some point pulled a wire out of the back of his computer which I think disables that thing or it may have been him disconnecting his phone he plugs in. I was too scared to look over, but I did knowtice he was occassionly using his computer after that.

I've been going over this is my head and I worry it was caused by me and that I make him so uncomfortable and annoy him.

I'm looking for advice on what you guys think and if you may have had similar experiences?

Well, I guess he was angry because something didn't work as he planned regarding his software. You should have asked him what the problem is.

Probably something went wrong with what he was doing, like when you work one something then accidentally delete it. I don't think it was you.

Don't think too much. It must have been something he was working on the computer suddenly shut down, or something like that. You can just ask him instead of being nervous like this

I don't think it was you he was angry at. The course is 6 hours long, and having to sit in the classroom for this much time can test the patience of some people. If it was me taking an autocad course for 6 hours long, I don't think I would last. Sometimes when I'm bored, I reach for my phone and try to do something on it.

I really don´t think this had anything to do with you. I think you´re overthinking it. I also obsess over everything and notice everything going on around me and I fear that I make mistakes or annoy people. But usually it´s all in my head.

your professional teacher should not be speaking like that in the classroom. Give yourself a break. He was the only one who did anything wrong.

Thanks for all the replies. I still really dont know what to think about it, I hate the uncertainty of social interactions, but I feel less stressed about it today. Thanks

Nanita said:

I really don´t think this had anything to do with you. I think you´re overthinking it. I also obsess over everything and notice everything going on around me and I fear that I make mistakes or annoy people. But usually it´s all in my head.

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Nice to know it isn't just me that feels like this

... Firstly... probably wasn't you.

Secondly... doesn't matter anyway. What has happened is done and in the past. Who or what caused it isn't relevant unless it happens again... and if it does, you'll have a better idea of the cause.
This really isn't something to worry about (not that I suppose it makes a difference when applied by brain chems).