EscapeArtist
Well-known member
I posted this on the wanting thread but I wanted to make it it's own thread becuase I'm really interested to hear everybody's answers.
Say you're not motivated to change. You're in a rut, and no matter how much you try and pump yourself up about the changes you have to make, you always end up back in the same spot. You feel like you really do want the life you envision for yourself SO badly! But you are not encouraged to do what it takes right now. You feel worn out of trying even though you haven't really consistently tried with gusto because the gusto is not there/.
Now say that you realize that if you're not motivated to do it, and you've tried for years to do it, maybe you don't want it as much as you want your comfort zone, your hiding place.
So now that you're at this point, which one will help you more in your opinion?
1. Keep trying to make yourself want to change. Pretend that the life that you're living you didn't choose and you don't want. Pretend that you want a better life.
2. Admit to yourself "Maybe I don't want this as much as I want what I have". Realize that what you have in your life is filling a role that must be more important.
I realize there are two ways that especially the 2nd option can go, but i'd like to hear other people's thoughts on these two directions
Say you're not motivated to change. You're in a rut, and no matter how much you try and pump yourself up about the changes you have to make, you always end up back in the same spot. You feel like you really do want the life you envision for yourself SO badly! But you are not encouraged to do what it takes right now. You feel worn out of trying even though you haven't really consistently tried with gusto because the gusto is not there/.
Now say that you realize that if you're not motivated to do it, and you've tried for years to do it, maybe you don't want it as much as you want your comfort zone, your hiding place.
So now that you're at this point, which one will help you more in your opinion?
1. Keep trying to make yourself want to change. Pretend that the life that you're living you didn't choose and you don't want. Pretend that you want a better life.
2. Admit to yourself "Maybe I don't want this as much as I want what I have". Realize that what you have in your life is filling a role that must be more important.
I realize there are two ways that especially the 2nd option can go, but i'd like to hear other people's thoughts on these two directions