Verbal and Emotionally Bullied

BlueWeepingRose

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It took me awhile to post this up, but I recently got out of a relationship with my boyfriend who pretty much bullied me for three years. We broke up on and off through out the years and now I finally left him for good. Now I'm suffering with depression and trying to get myself back on my feet again. He was verbally abusive, emotionally abusive and gave me the silent treatment many times which is also very abusive. Now I suffer with PTSD and I have a hard time trusting many people cause of what I've been through. Remember many of times when I wanted to leave him, he used to tell me "Who would want you? You're crazy.... and plus nobody else would be able to handle you like I can." He'd tell me others would have left me and that I don't know how good I have it, he played so many mind games with me and confused me for three years.

Now I'm finally speaking about it for the first time. Feel pretty much alone right now, cause I lost contact with a lot of my friends. I'm trying to get in contact with them again. Having a hard time coping and just wanted to put this out there cause I need relief. I'm tired of keeping this bottle up inside. :sad:
 
It took me awhile to post this up, but I recently got out of a relationship with my boyfriend who pretty much bullied me for three years. We broke up on and off through out the years and now I finally left him for good. Now I'm suffering with depression and trying to get myself back on my feet again. He was verbally abusive, emotionally abusive and gave me the silent treatment many times which is also very abusive. Now I suffer with PTSD and I have a hard time trusting many people cause of what I've been through. Remember many of times when I wanted to leave him, he used to tell me "Who would want you? You're crazy.... and plus nobody else would be able to handle you like I can." He'd tell me others would have left me and that I don't know how good I have it, he played so many mind games with me and confused me for three years.

Now I'm finally speaking about it for the first time. Feel pretty much alone right now, cause I lost contact with a lot of my friends. I'm trying to get in contact with them again. Having a hard time coping and just wanted to put this out there cause I need relief. I'm tired of keeping this bottle up inside. :sad:

Sorry you experienced this horrible time in your life DreamyblueSkies.
I got out of a relationship (my first and only one) similar to what you described, 10 years ago. It took me a about a year to "find myself" again as I had buried myself deep to protect my soul.
You will eventually recover and have hopefully learned some valuable ways to make sure you are never again brainwashed into being trapped by a person's negative opinions of you like that. :)
Definetely try to get back in touch with your friends. Being around people who allow you be yourself will help with the recovery process.
 
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BlueWeepingRose

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Thank you blue days, you're words are very comforting. The whole time I was with him he controlled me in everything I pretty much did. He wouldn't even let me go onto forums either cause he was so paranoid.

And I don't care cause I'm away from him but I've heard he even has a new girlfriend already. Feel kinda bad cause she has no idea how abusive he is. I saw that you sent me a friend request and I accepted it. =) Thank you again for responding to this, I appreciate it a lot! I'm glad you found yourself again.
 

ImNotMyIllness

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He sounds like a ****. My ex girlfriend of over three years was like that too. But, back then I had no self esteem. It's no wonder I attracted someone like that. She convinced me that I was the lucky one. HA! She was!
 

Foxie913

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I was verbally bullied by a guy in my homeroom when I was in high school. Because of my extreme shyness and social phobia I hardly showed any emotion which means I never smiled and because of it the a$$hole in my homeroom gave me the nickname Smiley :veryangry:.
Once I was off school for two weeks because of a foot infection and when I went back to school the first thing the a$$hole said was "Smiley's back".
I swear I felt like punching his lights out. If I had of he probably would of never called me that again. The verbal abuse went on for a year until my parents took me out of school because of different reasons (ie I wasn't coping with the work and I just had enough ect). Ever since then whenever I hear the word Smiley memories of the a$$hole and his abuse come flooding back. He can take a long walk of a short bridge for all I care.
 

Kiwong

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I've been feeling more relaxed about what people call me lately. I heard someone call me a "Head job". It made me laugh to be honest.
 

jaim38

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Don't know where to post this, so just thought I should post it in the bullying forum. I realize I am not good at reacting to sudden unexpected changes in the environment. Yesterday, I had the apology planned out in advance, but totally didn't expect the bullying to happen. I did the apology well but the bullying caught me off my tracks. I didn't know how to react to it. I was afraid of embarassing myself if I go up and confront them. I also didn't really know what to say because I don't have it planned out and memorized. So, I just let the bullies do what they want.

So, it got me thinking, I need to learn how to think better on my feet, speaking off the cuff.

Many of the people who bully me are intelligent people, but also have big egos. They wield a lot of influence in their group and are able to sway their members to their tune. However, I believe that intelligence used for bad, warlike purposes is useless. It does nothing but spread hate and conflict around the world. I was and still am inspired to use intelligence for good. There are also many types of intelligence, not just the IQ or EQ.
 
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BlueWeepingRose

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Ah yeah, I hope you're feeling better with the new year.

I'm feeling a little better but I'm dealing with lots of anxiety, sadness & anger lately. I find it very hard to try to sleep cause my mind races lately crazy and I feel alone. The only thing that's keep me together is going to therapy and doing the things I enjoy. Other times it's very hard for me to concentrate on anything. :crying:
 

Panthagon

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I know just how you feel, Dreamy. About a year and a half ago I got out of a very toxic relationship that sounds quite similar to yours. He tried to make me change who I was, and eventually succeeded. He brought me down to the lowest I have ever been, constantly threatening to hurt and even kill me if I left. I was scared of everything, literally everything, even things that made no sense like putting away laundry. It's got kind of a sad, twisted humor looking back on it now, as I realize how he was really powerless to do anything against me, and never could follow through on those threats he continues to make to this day. I'm no longer scared, but there are some things that have stuck with me, and have made the problems I already had worse.
But I feel that I, and you as well, can heal and move past our traumas, and become better people on the other side :)
 

Whoopdeedoo

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Ive been there too & now Ive got issues upon issues to sort out.

It feels like its taking forever to heal these wounds to my heart,
Mind , body and spirit....

Good luck, youre not alone
I hope we re both feeling much better soon
 
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