Unemployable with No Job Prospects :(

Nick9075

Member
OK, I am doing slightly better. Out of the malaise & depression and have managed to hold a temp job since January. However, I do think I am somewhat in this manic state but the meds I have been taking have definitely helped me with depression and SA to some extent
 

psych

Well-known member
Well, I work 40 hours a week, I got nothing but a GED and experience as an assisted living worker, & now a psych worker... I was also a personal assistant for awhile.
I hate the climate at my job, we are expected to be perfect automatons... With no emotions.
But, I know that being unemployed is even worse. If this job falls through I will gladly do any **** job out there to stay afloat. Losing my independence is worse than any humiliating gig I can work.
I never had a chance to go to college. Survival always took everything I've got.
 

Shenmue

Well-known member
I never had a chance to go to college. Survival always took everything I've got.
I know what you mean. As long as I can keep positive until september, which is when college starts, then I will be fine. So I only have to remain positive for about 90 or so days. Which is the equivalent to around 2200 hours. Or to put it another way, 7,776,000 seconds to remain positive. I suppose I could shave 30 seconds off that total right now. Although that would go against the abstinence advice from another thread. I think i'll have some chocolate instead.
 

psych

Well-known member
lol
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mikebird

Banned
I'm used to it.

This is what I see:

HI Mike,

I’m currently working with a London based NHS Client who is now looking for a SQL Developer on an Interim Basis.

They are looking for someone who can come in and hit the ground running from day one to help support and update the current packages they have.

With this, the key skills they are looking for are,

This is what they typed... leaving it open, with a comma.

My offer is:

Yep, of course! I will hit the recruiter with a baseball bat, and run
 

this_portrait

Well-known member
I don't even want to talk about how humiliating the job search has been for me. All I can say is that I'm probably going to have a breakdown soon. I just know it. One of these days I'm going to be pushed to the limit and it's going to make me snap.
 

Srijita52

Well-known member
I don't even want to talk about how humiliating the job search has been for me. All I can say is that I'm probably going to have a breakdown soon. I just know it. One of these days I'm going to be pushed to the limit and it's going to make me snap.
I'm sorry portrait.
 

girlinterupted

New member
Just never give up, some people take five days and some take five years. Its not to say you cant do it or that you are useless because all you need to do is keep a positive attitude and keep trying. If its not working then try a little harder. good luck xx
 

Richey

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As much as it annoys me, the people who are always in work feel that they aren't above anything, so if they can't find that ultimate career path job right away, they'll wash cars, do cleaning, retail, labour (outside), cash register. anything like that.

Alot of people feel they are above that, which is fair enough if you are certain that you want to enter a certain field. But if you think about it, all you really need is to earn a wage in the meantime.

Who knows you may even have conversations with people who can direct you to unglamerous work that pays really well, like traffic control, all you need is a yellow card, which takes passing a test, and you are then in demand and it can pay very well, that is just an example

Volunteering may be a way of getting experience in your chosen field but is a little off putting if you need to earn money.

Door knocking / Networking is way more likely to get you a job within a week then applying online which could take 6 months+ to find you work. People love it if you approach a business and just talk to them, because not many people do that, at all. And usually someone has just left the company and a position needs to be filled.

Temp agancies. There are different sorts of Temp agencies. Some are simply recruitment agencies that find you interviews etc. Others actually find you work and send you to locations, but your employer is the temp agency itself.

Free lancing. Ok so this takes guts, like starting a business takes alot of confidence, but if you have a clear goal then you can try it out, see if you get some work in design jobs.

I suppose this could help, if other people can do it then why not you, there are people with alot of issues that do all of what i've mentioned because they reached a point where they had to or they'd be homeless, they gained insight that gave them confidence to try things out, a door opened somehow. you don't even have to be that smart, its more just taking the action and trying it out. Hard to to start though.
 
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this_portrait

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The unemployment rate in your state is 8% above the national which is already high. Also, many reported as employed are underemployed. Cut yourself some slack, you're swimming in rough seas.

I rarely hear a peep back from anyone myself.

Makes me wish I lived in a different state... :(

It wouldn't bother me so much if things were going all right for my parents, but unfortunately, money's pretty tight with them and it's hard for them to help me out. My mother has to work overtime at a job where she's severely underpaid, and my father's been out of work since November 2010 (though he receives Social Security) and is still paying off medical bills for glaucoma treatments before his Medicare went into effect.

All I want is to contribute to my own bills instead of relying on my parents (especially my mother). Hell, my father offered to give me $500 towards my rent since I'm having such a hard time looking for employment. As much as I appreciate them helping me, I feel bad about it. It makes me wish that I would've been a better student during my first 4 years in school instead of spiraling downward into a mental hell, then maybe I would have a job through networking by now.
 

awkwardamanda

Well-known member
I don't even want to talk about how humiliating the job search has been for me.
That's why I keep avoiding the job search.::eek:: I expect to be humiliated. I expect to blank out and not know how to answer questions at interviews. I expect it will be obvious I'm shy and unconfident. I expect to have difficulty providing references. I expect to get turned down once any potential employer realizes I've worked at my first job for eight years and have been out of university for three. I assume they'll think there's some reason I haven't found something else yet and won't want to take a chance hiring me. I can't put it off forever though. The store I work at is closing in the fall. I hope I can find something half decent before then, or at least, shortly after.:confused:

Also, many reported as employed are underemployed.
On a related note, I believe you have to be actively seeking employment in order to fall into the "unemployed" category. So while a stay-at-home wouldn't add to the unemployment rate, neither would someone who's homeless, which kinda skews the results.

As much as it annoys me, the people who are always in work feel that they aren't above anything, so if they can't find that ultimate career path job right away, they'll wash cars, do cleaning, retail, labour (outside), cash register. anything like that.

Alot of people feel they are above that, which is fair enough if you are certain that you want to enter a certain field. But if you think about it, all you really need is to earn a wage in the meantime.
True, some people do think they're above menial jobs, but I don't think it's as simple as that. To some extent, yes, you have to take what you can get, but it's not necessarily the case that any job is better than no job. Say you lose your job as a nurse. Are you going to take a minimum wage job that won't pay the bills? Probably not, until you reach a point of desperation. Or maybe you just finished an education degree and can't find a job as a teacher. Sure, you could apply at Wal-mart, but they might just tell you you're overqualified. Or an employer might not want to hire you if they know you're likely to keeping looking for something more suitable and may not last long. Also, if you're collecting any sort of employment insurance, you're probably better off holding out for something appropriate. Otherwise, you end up taking a crappy job, which takes away from time you could be using to find something better. Then, you're miserable at work and stressing over a tight budget, making it harder to go about finding the right job. It's a complicated issue.

Richey said:
Door knocking / Networking is way more likely to get you a job
Doesn't work too well when you've got SA. I wouldn't dare cold call looking for job openings.
 

Metal_isthe_Answer

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Around here seemingly everything requires a degree of some kind, I just went to to high school and dont have a college degree so I see all these jobs that pay 5 thousand a month and I bring home about 1,200, it's very aggravating.
 

Facethefear

Well-known member
Better to be doing something daily to earn a paycheck than to be unemployed and waiting. There are 168 hours in a week so spending 40 hours of that time trading labour for dollars is not such a hardship especially if the bills get paid. I remember watching the TV show Undercover Boss and many times the CEO started in the company at a menial job and worked his way up to the top. Employers want intelligent workers of course but also look for reliable people who show up, on time, ready to work with a good attitude. If you think a job is beneath you it will be noticed.
I worked, for too many years, in offices in Toronto; sitting at a desk, pushing a pen wearing the right clothes and playing office politics - commuting on the subway and living in an apt. That was considered a proper middle class career.
Now I live in the country, drive to people's houses, do whatever they need done and make a smidgen over minimum wage. I work for a branch of the Provincial Government. Because I perform these services, elderly and disabled people can stay in their homes with their pets and have a clean house (inside and out), eat home cooked meals, have clean clothes, get driven to appointments and shopping, etc. Menial work? Sure. Beneath me? Nope.
I was at a funeral of a client and their relative thanked me for doing the job that kept the deceased in her home with her beloved dog until the end instead of being in an institution. I inherited the dog.
Sometimes, the reward for giving your time and energy is better than the $$$$$$$.
 

mikebird

Banned
Exactly :s
Also, many of the job advertisements say they only want people with "experience". They miss out on hiring many potentially great workers because of this imo.


This all makes a good read.

Anyone fully capable of remaining in a vertical posture, burger-flipping, saying "hello to customers" or driving a van, is unemployable, unless they've had a minimum of 50 years' experience


I suggest we all get together, somehow, across all continents, into a fleet of Chinooks or Apaches, whichever is available, with a minigun to hand each, wiping out every recruiter firm we know, for better prospects, approaching employers directly
 
I've been unemployed for nearly 10 months. My previous job was as a telemarketer, it was hell because I always got written up for not making enough sales and lots of people yelled at me over the phone. I'm a very sensitive and shy person and I hate talking on the phone. But it was a job I tried and did for a year. I was a waitress for a little less than a year years ago, I won't do that job again either. I've had a few interviews, there were times I thought I had the job but I guess they found someone better. It's hard. Now I'm not looking as much as I used to, my anxiety is getting worse now. I do hope to get something in the near future still. I do have a certificate in the medical billing and coding program, but those looking for billers and coders want experience. My husband is looking for a better job, he's still making minimum wage working at the same retail job for six years, but no luck with him either. He has a college degree. We still want kids and to get a house someday and move out of our apartment, but if things don't get better, I'm afraid we might have to forgo the kids and just get a dog :(
 

Facethefear

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I bet we could collectively find a job for one unemployed person by using all of our resources. Who wants to be the guinea pig (no offence meant) and who
wants to be a searcher/helper/cheerleader?
 
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