told i was too nervous to hang out with

I recently reunited with a childhood friend, as kids we used to have crushes on each other.

After 10 years we reunited and we met up a couple of times but lately she's been putting off hanging out with me. She said that 'You come across very nervous and conformtable and that makes me nervous too and simply doesn't want hang out with me much because of this.

She does tease about meeting up in next couple of weeks but I don't believe her... ::


I think scare away friends and crushes because of my anxiety it makes me paranoid

anybody had someone say something like this to them?

I've had something similar happen to me. My last and only girlfriend was in the 7th grade at the time (pre anxiety era) it was so bad it never really ended, it just ended based on the fact that we never saw each other and I could tellnet the way she always looked at me all the time that she was relying on me to just say something that she wanted me to say, anything at all. I'm such an idiot because it was so easy but I had no control.

Anxiety gets better as time goes by and people realise more.

I've definitely gotten that sense from a lot of people in the past. It's like social anxiety is some kind of contagious disease people want to get away from. I know how it feels...but try not to let it get you down. Easier said than done, I know

Moods are contagious. Odds are if you are noticeably uncomfortable around someone, it in turn makes them uncomfortable and anxious. This is one reason that people are drawn to outgoing and positive folks like fish to water. Nobody likes to feel depressed and anxious if they don't have to. But yeah, all of us that have social anxiety have probably at one time or another made someone feel uncomfortable, whether they expressed it or not.

I can't say I have ever met someone who came across as nervous, but I don't think I would ever feel put off by them.

that said; anyone who doesn't want to get to know someone properly because they see that they are nervous, is shallow. and you shouldn't want to be friends with them.

I've noticed when people ask me about my life and I tell them about all the sh***y and depressing stuff I've had to put up with (and still am), they suddenly want to get away as soon as possible. Fact is that people don't want to hear about depressing stuff, it makes them feel uncomfortable and vulnerable.

Over 60% of communication is body language. If you seem anxious and nervous around someone, that person will notice and take it as a cue that you don't feel comfortable. This invokes a negative response and the logical reaction is rejection. Likewise if you are a self-assured, outgoing and positive person others will pick up on this and gain a positive response. People will be drawn to such people because they invoke a positive reaction in them.

There are lots of ways to overcome anxiety. A lot of it has to do with willpower and not giving up. Therapy, medication, meditation, relaxation and social training can all help, but there is no perfect solution, every individual is unique and what works for one person might not work for another. As I have said many times on these forums; If you feel you have a problem then I urge you to SEEK HELP. I cannot stress this enough. You will never get better by sitting scared in a corner.

Last night i hang out with my ex
i think that we'll make up, and be together again
I felt like a fool. All i did was so weird.
I was so nervous. I couldn't make a sentences well.
And I think he's fine at that night
But now I feel we're so far far awayy...
We used to having dinner tonight,but I think he'll cancle it with his way. Like what he said just now " I broke my nail" hahahaah