tired of trying to overcome the problem?

Do you rech a point of extremem sadness and feeling inadaquate?

does trying to hard to change have an opposite affect sometimes?

I get tired or falling, tired of picking myself up and scared of the next time i'll fall into that sad place.

Just wish I could stay happy and feel happy about myself.

Don't want to feel I need to hide from everything. Its ruining my life. Making me miss out on important happy moments.

I know I dont need to be this way but it is just so scary for me to face society and be judged.

Can anyone relate to this? Please help guys?

I feel like it all the time hunny,
It's tough but you kind of learn ways to cope after time.
Just hold in there.

I already got used to feel like that.

i feel the same way. its hard because you have to deal with it everyday, there's never a "break", even when you're alone, cause you know your going to have to get right back out there eventually.

I have felt like you do now for many, many, many years. You just have to keep trying to find a way to manage it as best you can, because the alternative would hurt your family too much..(thats if you have a nice family though)

Enjoy life whenever you get the chance to... Dont over think matters it will give you a headache... Im tired of thinking, even though i still think. I always find something to occupy myself with and it automatically started not to control my mind on time..

Yeah, I hit a wall last night where I just kept thinking, "I'm here all over again."

I'm sick and tired of trying, especially because I still don't have anything. Every day, I just want to give up or hide. I don't know anymore.

^ Try to do something new in life for a change... If you feel life is dull then you should add something into it to make it more exciting... Dont bother thinking about what you cannot get but reach to what you find in sight...

Ellla said:

Do you rech a point of extremem sadness and feeling inadaquate?

does trying to hard to change have an opposite affect sometimes?

I get tired or falling, tired of picking myself up and scared of the next time i'll fall into that sad place.

Just wish I could stay happy and feel happy about myself.

Can anyone relate to this? Please help guys?

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Actually I'm feeling this way now.

It seems like when I play World of Warcraft I know that they'll be bullies out there and I fear of not being able to do anything or enough about it. It makes me lose confidence, self esteem and puts me in fear all the time.

I'm just feeling sick of it right now. I don't even have the motivation to fight back anymore.

But then again I know I should keep trying cause it's better than beating myself up and feeling down. I wait till the depression phase pasts and then the anger phase will come, and I'll use that anger to pick myself up again and fight another day.

It seems pointless in a way cause it'll just be a continuous cycle of suffering, but it's what I choose cause I believe in what I fight for. To stick up for myself against bullying.

Ellla said:

Don't want to feel I need to hide from everything. Its ruining my life. Making me miss out on important happy moments.

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Yeah that's what I try and not to do. Run away all the time.

Ellla said:

I know I dont need to be this way but it is just so scary for me to face society and be judged.

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I hate to say this but people are always gonna judge you and you probably do the same. The thing is to be who you want to be and not let people bother you. Imagine professional sportspeople they have to put up with the media and criticism all the time. They pull through it and so can you.

You should also try using your anger, the anger at how society judges you and use that anger to tell yourself you're sick of all this judging and not give a damn about what people think of you. If they don't like it, it's there problem not yours.

You can't please everyone in society but the important thing is just to be who you want to be and not give a rat's ar*e about what people think.

the same way.... and it just makes u wanna...:/ just one little success would make u keep on trying..

The OP is describing my life of the past year and a half to a T. I find that what really helps is exercise, but not just exercise, exercise to the extreme. You have to gather all your willpower and consciously push it to the limits.

Do not fight the sadness, make sure you take some time to savor it. It feels bad, but if you can savor that feeling it will start feeling good. There's some sort of excitement of feeling alive that you can get out of any feelings if you want to. It's not unlike the feeling of good you get from self mutilation except that it's natural and that your not the one hurting yourself.

If you can find the exact source of your sadness, this may help you as well. Obverse yourself and your thought patterns. Challenge them. When I'm feel real sad and lonely, I form one word in my mind, "abandonment", and just that makes want to laugh to tears because I feel like I totally don't care all the time, yet here I am feeling the exact opposite.

Or when I feel inadequate it usually comes from comparing myself to others in a specific way. I tell myself, "Look at you go! nobody has told you anything yet. It's not coming them, it's coming from you, your the only one belittling me, but it takes only you to comprehend the why I am where I am now, so as a close friend I'm sure you'll come to understand that things are not exactly what they seem."

chained said:

the same way.... and it just makes u wanna...:/ just one little success would make u keep on trying..

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I agree, after all confidence comes from success as my psycologist told me

Try to avoid those for put you down
just a healty advice

MandyMouse said:

I have felt like you do now for many, many, many years. You just have to keep trying to find a way to manage it as best you can, because the alternative would hurt your family too much..(thats if you have a nice family though)

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I agree with this. I mean, really, what choice do you have but to go forward? It will end eventually on it's own. Continue forward and who knows what new days will bring.

If you want to search for a silver lining, just think, we get to experience a unique facet of human life that few others experience. Social Anxiety certainly casts life in a new light. Simple, mundane activities are now transformed into horrifying experiences. I try to think like that sometimes. Really though I just want it to go away. Working on it.

i'm so tired, yet we must keep fighting