Why is what others think important to you?

EscapeArtist

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#1
I can't find a reason for it myself. These people that would see me if I walked outside I think very little of, and yet I let them turn my own mind against me
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For instance, the thread "They Do Stare", people always tell us that others aren't actually giving us the attention we assume they are. But if they do... what is it about that negative attention that grabs control of us? Why are you so persuaded by others when you are negatively judged? :confused:
 

Waybuloo

Well-known member
#2
I can't find a reason for it myself. These people that would see me if I walked outside I think very little of, and yet I let them turn my own mind against me
.
For instance, the thread "They Do Stare", people always tell us that others aren't actually giving us the attention we assume they are. But if they do... what is it about that negative attention that grabs control of us? Why are you so persuaded by others when you are negatively judged? :confused:
Because I myself think all sort of negative things about the way I look, the way i behave. I think i stick out like a sore thumb and a freak, and if anyone looks at me for longer than the usual acknowledgment that confirms what I thought all along. I guess i'm just looking for validation to what I think of myself - hence jumping into negatives.
 

Bones

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#3
I have problems because my mum is one of those people who watch and take the p*ss out of people walking by, and so whenever I go out I assume that everyone else does that too. Even though, common sense tells me that they probably don't.
So, every time I go out I try to act 'normally' to avoid people thinking that about me.
 

be_noticed

Well-known member
#4
i want to know what others think of me purely based on what the majority protray me as. besides that i probably wouldnt take what most percentage of people think of me because i know i dont give out too much about myself so i'd be expecting them to jusde me otherwise. :l

however the ones who would know me to a more personal level would probably come across a much more stronger and more affective judgement or opinion that would be taken personally. but it does make me curious to see what i would come across as. usually that would probably affect me at first when i meet that person but after a while it doesnt anymore. why?

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