aaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhh :?
does it really matter when you think about it, ive had days where i talk all day and days where i say barely a few sentences, i'm all over the shop like a rollercoaster ....
I personally do not prefer quiet people over chatty people or visa versa, i just understand in my head that people are different and it can depend on the environment your currently living in ...i dont have prejudice regarding those traits i can sit at the table and listen to other staff bitch and complain how certain people are "boring as batshit, didnt say a word to me all night" ..not worth knowing, and last time it happened i had to react to this girl ..and i just said "well, people often take time to come out of their shell ..and even then how hard did you really try to talk to them if your that worked up over it"? ..she just became tongue tied and a little put off by me questioning her ..so i think people, especailly outgoing arrogant types just like to talk themselves up by putting other people down ...or they simply dont know how to articulate the actual situation with any clarity, so its easier to bitch about it rather then admit they wanted to get to know this person after all why bring it up if it wasnt on her mind, she obiously wanted attention from this person ....
I just roll my eyes and become defensive when people say stuff like that ..
Its like i know people who do the same and yet they are outgoing and bitch about quiet people, yet the people they bitch about are far better at taking action and making something of their lives. ..
a few of these people at work are the sorts of people that go to coffee shops and gossip about everything ..no real deep conversation, just talking about celebrity gossip and nonsense (OK NOW IM CONTRADICTING MYSELF BY BITCHING about them ))
but i dont really care what they do in their spare time, just dont be so prejudice against people who arent as talkative as you might be ...
i realy dont get it, as it doesnt bother me in the slightest, perhaps because ive been known to be on both sides of the coin ..introvert and extrovert ...
because i know in certain times in my life ive shown differeing personality traits depending on who i'm spending my days around and where i am ...
for instance someone who is very chatty may live with family member or a friend that is an influence in that area or their lives are going so well that they are just happier ..so it can be contageous, or they have alot of positive influences as opposed to people who live with more passive reserved people ....
some places i resent being there, like where i work, i dont feel comfortable at all in that environment, your involved with people who are on different runs of the ladder, above you who have more power then you and can often talk down to you, but then there are quiet ones who are more polite and easy to talk to . ...
for me its more dependent on me reacting to my environment rather then me being in the moment and not caring whats around me ...
but i just feel very nervous at work ..and yet in various classes during university i felt free to say as i pleased, and other classes because i wasnt as confident in the subject being taught to me, i was very quiet in fear of making a fool of myself by not knowing the core subject and feeling too naive to speak up ...
