sketchy24
Well-known member
You know this is a nice place I think... lots of people you can relate to in ways you never thought anyone would possibly be able to understand.
The thing is, the negativity and whining on these boards is kind of a set back IMO. Instead of encouraging people to overcome SA or be able to live life with SA its a bunch of "I'm lonely" "Life sucks" "Everyone hates me" "Cant talk on phones" etc etc. Then the replies are just "I know exactly what you mean" "I completely relate" "Ya life sucks" etc etc. I think some people try and recommend books or to recommend seeing a therapist or something but really... I know most of us feel like lazy blobs with no direction in life and I'm guessing most of us are never gonna muster up the motivation to go see a therapist or pick up a self help book. And then even then that takes a lot of work on the patients part to make it work. Nothing magical happens. I think if someone had someone who was completely supportive, understanding etc, the social phobic would try much harder to get better and work at it. They have a goal, they have encouragement etc and it gets them motivated a bit.
I'm an "artist". I like to sketch really... but do I draw a lot? Nope. I see no purpose in it, I have no motivation to do it. Who am I gonna show it too? What would be the benefit? It would really be wasting time as there are more important things I could be doing in that time. Same with reading the Bible. I'm a Christian but my walk with God sucks. No motivation to read the bible, no one to talk stuff over with, and too much I expect a magical genie to grant all my wishes so I just put it on the back burner. Anyway I'm sure many here can relate in their own ways. I'm guessing most lack motivation and drive for much of anything. Getting over SA completely being one of them. Sure we want it gone but over night, no work involved.
So I thought I would create this thread
Basically... this is a NON-negative thread. Post how you faced your SA and did whatever anyway. Or post what you plan to do tomorrow that challenges your SA... you'll have it written down, we'll all be waiting for you to get back and tell us how it went (you don't wanna come back and say you failed do you?). If you like to write, draw, make music etc but really don't find any motivation to do it cause you don't think anyone will care... show it off here. And maybe get ideas how to find ways to use your talents or interests to interact with others IRL. Actually you don't even need to post it in this thread. I'm just trying to encourage more positive posts over the boards in general.
Maybe even have just fun forum contests... getting a photo of you do something extremely crazy and in the face of SA and everyone just votes who was the most extreme. I don't know just throwing ideas out.
Me, I'm gonna take my drivers test... again.. just the written part... I've been putting it off for ages since I failed the actual driving test 3 times (mostly cause I was just uber nervous). I don't have any excuses to keep putting it off, just no motivation and well... I just hate going out alone anyway. So tomorrow.. well tuesday (tomorrow I go into work early), I'm gonna walk down and take the written part. Then I can at least get my permit again and drive my mom around or something. Ya I'm gonna go slow. There are a lot of other stuff I'd like to do and work at change but I really need to pick my lazy ass up and get my license. It would help with the rest too...
I also hate the way I look so I'm gonna be brave and post my picture in the picture thread. If I can start just accepting thats the way I am and appreciate the things that make me unique, maybe I won't be so self conscious. But my new computer has a camera built in so... no excuse there...
So anyone else have any small goals or such they haven't gotten around to because they're too afraid/self concious or whatever cause of SA and need a bit of motivation? Post it. Anything thing to report how you were a little better today at overcoming SA then yesterday? Post it... you'll be able to look back when you're down and see how far you've come. Thoughts? Comments? Ideas? Just no negative crap polluting this thread. Leave the "whine" at the door. There are 100 other threads for that
The thing is, the negativity and whining on these boards is kind of a set back IMO. Instead of encouraging people to overcome SA or be able to live life with SA its a bunch of "I'm lonely" "Life sucks" "Everyone hates me" "Cant talk on phones" etc etc. Then the replies are just "I know exactly what you mean" "I completely relate" "Ya life sucks" etc etc. I think some people try and recommend books or to recommend seeing a therapist or something but really... I know most of us feel like lazy blobs with no direction in life and I'm guessing most of us are never gonna muster up the motivation to go see a therapist or pick up a self help book. And then even then that takes a lot of work on the patients part to make it work. Nothing magical happens. I think if someone had someone who was completely supportive, understanding etc, the social phobic would try much harder to get better and work at it. They have a goal, they have encouragement etc and it gets them motivated a bit.
I'm an "artist". I like to sketch really... but do I draw a lot? Nope. I see no purpose in it, I have no motivation to do it. Who am I gonna show it too? What would be the benefit? It would really be wasting time as there are more important things I could be doing in that time. Same with reading the Bible. I'm a Christian but my walk with God sucks. No motivation to read the bible, no one to talk stuff over with, and too much I expect a magical genie to grant all my wishes so I just put it on the back burner. Anyway I'm sure many here can relate in their own ways. I'm guessing most lack motivation and drive for much of anything. Getting over SA completely being one of them. Sure we want it gone but over night, no work involved.
So I thought I would create this thread
Basically... this is a NON-negative thread. Post how you faced your SA and did whatever anyway. Or post what you plan to do tomorrow that challenges your SA... you'll have it written down, we'll all be waiting for you to get back and tell us how it went (you don't wanna come back and say you failed do you?). If you like to write, draw, make music etc but really don't find any motivation to do it cause you don't think anyone will care... show it off here. And maybe get ideas how to find ways to use your talents or interests to interact with others IRL. Actually you don't even need to post it in this thread. I'm just trying to encourage more positive posts over the boards in general. Maybe even have just fun forum contests... getting a photo of you do something extremely crazy and in the face of SA and everyone just votes who was the most extreme. I don't know just throwing ideas out.
Me, I'm gonna take my drivers test... again.. just the written part... I've been putting it off for ages since I failed the actual driving test 3 times (mostly cause I was just uber nervous). I don't have any excuses to keep putting it off, just no motivation and well... I just hate going out alone anyway. So tomorrow.. well tuesday (tomorrow I go into work early), I'm gonna walk down and take the written part. Then I can at least get my permit again and drive my mom around or something. Ya I'm gonna go slow. There are a lot of other stuff I'd like to do and work at change but I really need to pick my lazy ass up and get my license. It would help with the rest too...
I also hate the way I look so I'm gonna be brave and post my picture in the picture thread. If I can start just accepting thats the way I am and appreciate the things that make me unique, maybe I won't be so self conscious. But my new computer has a camera built in so... no excuse there...
So anyone else have any small goals or such they haven't gotten around to because they're too afraid/self concious or whatever cause of SA and need a bit of motivation? Post it. Anything thing to report how you were a little better today at overcoming SA then yesterday? Post it... you'll be able to look back when you're down and see how far you've come. Thoughts? Comments? Ideas? Just no negative crap polluting this thread. Leave the "whine" at the door. There are 100 other threads for that
