The end of the world has come

[SilverLiner]

Well alright, it hasn't lol. But I have an awkward scenario under my belt and I don't know what to do.

The only person I ever really got on with at work about a year ago texts me today asking if I want to go clubbing with her (and presumably her mates as well) tomorrow. This is like the worst case scenario for me and SA. The only person I will know there is someone who I haven't spoken to in like a year...and only spoke once briefly in the pub to exchange numbers. So having someone I barely know along with loads of people I don't even know...all set in a pub and club where I can't hear very well and have to be very close to someone to talk. I'm very self concious of my image and always hate getting really to close to someone. I always see them squinting and backing away slightly.

I'm absolutely dreading this but a part of me wants to do this; a) to see this girl again as we always had a good laugh. b) I want do this just to stick two fingers up at my SA.

So what do I do? Sit in and feel sorry for myself but relieved I don't have to talk to anyone? Or go out and risk making a total idiot out of myself?

 

[veryshy]

GO MAKE AN IDIOT OF YOURSELF!!!!!! 8)

Seems to be the 'in thing' to do. WHy the hell not?

Its NOT ALWAYS better to remain silent and let them think your idiot than to open your mouth and remove all doubt.

The worse that could happen is you die in an agonising long and drawn out death, the best is you could meet someone of your dreams.

Here you have this great chance to start anew. TAKE IT!

They must have invited you for a reason (she wants to hook up with you or hook a friend up with you).

Theres NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU, its all mindset!

 

[veryshy]

When are you going out? WHat day?

 

[black_mamba]

Let's be honest; clubs are shit for socialising. They exist for people to dance, rub crotches together and get so disgustingly drunk they forget their own names. Talking in a club is very difficult, but if you're upto drinking a bit and doing not much else it may work in your favour, since you will have a legit reason not to say too much.

Sorry if I offended any clubbers, but I *know* what you naughty people get upto. :twisted: (coz I used to do it too).

Also you could attach yourself to this particular girl and let her know you feel a bit uncomfy with strangers - usually telling someone this means that they are more aware of leaving you alone with them.

 

[Bexi]

2moro, so saturday night? LOL at veryshy, worst case is ur die a long drawn out death! nah, worst is u won't like it, then u dont have to do it again? Have u said ur go?xx

 

[veryshy]

We will expect a report back sunday or monday sometime otherwise we will think you are just here for pity and sympathy.

 

[SilverLiner]

lol, don't worry, you'll get a report :wink: yeah, it's on Saturday night (typing posts at weird times like 2am just confuses me lol).
I already have the girl of my dreams (she lives about 200 miles away) so it's not like I'm going in for that. That almost sort of helps actually...especially if I tell her about my gf, it'll make it look like I'm not there to pull and I'll relax a bit more.

I agree with you black_mamba about the clubs being shit for socialising. I guess it's just 'oi you, come here *grope grope kiss kiss* fuck off' (sorry, stealing lee evans jokes here :lol at least I can put my 'dancing skills' to good use lol.

I haven't said I'll go yet. I text back saying I wasn't sure how much money I had and that I'll let her know tomorrow...urr, today rather lol. I was going to ring her to find out later (as she didnt reply to my first text a couple of weeks ago and didnt text back tonight) but now I'm thinking that if she hasn't replied back then maybe she didn't mean to send it to me and it was meant for someone else. Thus making me look like an idiot when I ring her.

Yes, I'm a fool *shakes head*

 

[Bexi]

awww silly, i bet it was meant for u, dont fret What do ppl wear to clubs these days?oooo i sound old-im not!hehe When i think club, i just think CHAV? will u dance silverliner?? shake it like a polaroid picture boy x

 

[SilverLiner]

I don't shake, it's more of a jiggle...it's like that split second before you burst when you need the toilet lol.

It depends on what club we go to on what clothes people wear. I prefer going to Flares where everyones dressed in 70's clothes with big wigs, huge sideburns etc. Or if you go to a typical dance night club you can't look in the direction of someone for more than 2 seconds or you're apparently starting something lol.

 

[SilverLiner]

I'll be honest, I've just got home and I'm still pissed lol.

It ended up just being being me and the girl to start off with as no-one else turned up. We went to a couple of pubs and had a good chat with what's been going on the past year lol. She then asks if I want to go camping for the night and get pissed with her friends. I couldn't really say no and so I went back home to get a sleeping bag and some alcohol. It was actually a pretty damn good night. I spent most of the night drinking tequila and vodka...and I honestly can't remember much else. I remember bits and pieces...like lying on the grass and making swans talk with our hands, attempting to rap to Gangsters Paradise and having a chat with a girl about horror films (I can't remember exactly what about lol).

So all in all it was a successful night, I honestly didn't expect to spend the night with a load of strangers but they were all sound. Somehow with it being pitch black and everyone being drunk masde it so much easier, I didn't have any anxiety or worry about how I looked etc. I am however still drunk and keep flipping between propping myself up to stay awake and passing out on the bed lol.

 

[crazyfairyx]

Good for you! I way prefer getting drunk in the dark, with a tent and some daft people than going to clubs, just sooooo much fun!

Glad you had a good night Good for you for going for it!


Hugs
Naomi x

 

[Sue]

glad you did it man piece by piece bit by bit it will start getting easier and more fun when you go out. fair play for your bravery! :wink:

 

[SilverLiner]

Aw thanks u two I'm definitely glad I went...even if it did take til the end of the day to recover from a hangover lol.

I am actually really embarrassed by that thread title :lol: