SP or not SP

oxygene

Active member
This is just my opinion, and I hope no one gets offended but sometimes it seems to me like most of the members of this forum are not suffering from sp but other minor social problems. Look at the threads and you will see lots of posts starting with "my girlfriend" or "my boy friend". It just doesn`t make sense to me. If I had a gf I wouldn`t be here or think that I`m suffering from sp. What do you think?
 

estelle

Member
oxygene said:
This is just my opinion, and I hope no one gets offended but sometimes it seems to me like most of the members of this forum are not suffering from sp but other minor social problems. Look at the threads and you will see lots of posts starting with "my girlfriend" or "my boy friend". It just doesn`t make sense to me. If I had a gf I wouldn`t be here or think that I`m suffering from sp. What do you think?

well...i just think that those with "friends" and a significant other are really lucky...that's all i gotta say.. :idea:
i really dont know about them having sp or not...
i hope others on here can answer that. :idea:
 

2Crowded

Well-known member
I managed to have a few girlfriends back in the day (15 - 20 years ago while having SA...dont know how it happened exactly but it did...I must have been really attractive i guess cause I never took any of them to public/crowded places at all really..maybe once in a blue moon if i was dragged reluctantly....but i still managed to have about a 4 or 5 year period of having 3 girlfriends in total.
 

noblame4

Well-known member
It happens. Some people gravitate towards shy people because it's less threatening for them. Some other people gravitate to us because they think we're submissive and they want to be in control. The latter usually move on when they discover we actually have personalities in here somewhere. That probably accounts for most of the "WTF My baby done left me!!" posts around here.
 

Len

Well-known member
Minor Social Phobia is still Social Phobia. Even if someone can go out and socialise it doesn't mean that they do not feel anxious or think that there heart or brain is going to explode. I suffer from panic attacks and anxiety but try to hide it as best as possible. It took me about 2-3 years after I split up from my fiancee before I found my current girlfriend. I suffer every day but just because it is not severe as other it doesn't mean that I do not suffer. I have spent the last 10 years being stressed and anxious every single day. I guess some people deal with it differently. Every day I feel as though I am getting better but the new fear is that I am going to suffer from a heart attack very soon. I have a girlfriend and one or two 'friends' but it doesn't mean that I do not suffer. I am sure there are others with similar feelings?
 

tool1919

Well-known member
I think there are just degrees of it. Some people on this site have been affected worse for whatever reason and some may only be affected slightly. Though i think that whoever is on this site feels like it is effecting their life to an extent that causes them great concern and is really negatively impacting on their life. I do have some close friends that i've been lucky to have found over the past few years, but still suffer greatly with my SP on a daily basis.
 
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