Real friends in the real life?

#1
Do you have any real friends in the real life?

I dont have any friends in my real life because im looking for any contacts here...its hard to find here any people who would like to speak with a person from germany :(...
 

Tiercel

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#3
I have a handful of friends, but I don't feel really close to them. Not as close as I used to be, anyway. And I speak to people online, but I've never met any of them in real life.

I have no one I would consider a confidant.

::(:
 
#4
I know that its hard because i can life with this mind now.
I have my dog and he is my best friend he loves me as i am and that is a beautiful feeling
 

Meisiemel

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#6
I only have one good one and we no longer live in the same town.She's an old lady - the same age as my mother. I get very nervous when I get friend requests on facebook from people who live in the same town as me. I'm terrified they might oneday want to meet in person.
 
#7
I have one friend here in my town, he works night shifts at a bakery so I rarely get to see him anymore. And another one, we talk on Skype/webcam all the time without it being awkward so I consider him a real life friend, whom is also my boyfriend.. that lives in Portugal.. 2000km away. :C

Ah well. Two is better then non. C:
 

Fighter86

Well-known member
#8
I actually had none, till one I actually met online recently. Because we live in the same city, we have met up in real life. But I would think its more of a one way friendship on my end, its always me taking the pro active approach, probably because he's got other friends as well. Other than him, there's one one other guy I've known online for 5 years, never met with him though because we live in different countries, we would have met up a long time ago if not for the distance. Other than that, I still do keep in touch occasionally via text message with a couple ex-colleagues which I left 4 months back. That's all i guess.
 

AGR

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#9
nope I talk to some people,but I dont consider them as friends they are just people I try to put up with to be in peace,to me a friend is someone who makes you feel good,doesnt put you down,those are hard to find and to be honest in those last few years I only had one.
 

Richey

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#10
from what i've learnt anyway, the problem is you may not think you are good enough to make friends because of anxiety and other internal dialogue going on haulting you. but really if you are out and about more and you really start to just find a few interests or if you join a sports club or you learn music at a music club ..or you go to a library or you're just out more then the chance that you'll meet new people goes from 0% to 50-60% almost immediately ...all you need to do is find a bunch of activities that you enjoy and pursue them in the outside world and along the way you are likely to interact with others on some level which means the opportunities then exist for you ..

and the funny thing is that people tend to stay isolated because they believe they are boring ..but nobody really cares, in fact you could tell anyone "hi my name is "this" and i'm boring" and the person will feel gratitude that you are interested in talking to them more so then you thinking you're boring ...
 

Felgen

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#12
Most of my friends I met in elementary school. To new people, I can seem charismatic, socially skilled and all that for a short while, but I can't keep new friends I've made.
 

LadyWench

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#13
Nope. I'm pretty close to my boyfriend's youngest sister, Cheyenne. But I just recently discovered that she only spends time with me when she has nothing better to do. If her friends are being b*tchy or they blow her off, she'll ask to hang out with me. Feels good.

But no, other than that, I have no one. Apparently people don't like me.
 

AGR

Well-known member
#14
What defines a real friend?
Well to me as I said,is someone who makes you feel well,isnt pushing you do to stuff,you have a fun time with them,you could trust him do not make moves on your girlfriend,it is rare to find that these days;),other people I just try to put up with so I can get by.
 
#15
Well to me as I said,is someone who makes you feel well,isnt pushing you do to stuff,you have a fun time with them,you could trust him do not make moves on your girlfriend,it is rare to find that these days;),other people I just try to put up with so I can get by.
That was nice. Very true that honest sincere reliable people are very hard
to find nowadays.
I do not think I have ever met a person like the one you describe, man or women. Would be nice to someday do.
 

Damaged

Well-known member
#16
I have friends who i talk to but don't hang out with as they aren't proper friends. I also have guys who act like their friends and try to get me to hang out but they just wanna get on me.

I really miss having a girl best mate who i can have girly nights in with and be really comfortable infront of :(
 

live

Active member
#18
A true friend to someone with social anxiety is a person who makes you feel at ease, that you are completely content with in being around them, and you don't have to constantly think about how they will judge you. right now, to me, that is a friend
 
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