Not feeling mature?
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Age is just a number, and really doesn't have much to do with maturity. I'm 31, but feel like I'm 13 as far as maturity/life experiences and how I interact with people- that is, if/when I actually do.
Satine
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I used to worry about that, too. Still do, sometimes.
I think when you're shy like many of us here, we don't learn the social skills we need to so feel immature when the time comes to test what skills we do have. However, we've always held back from socialising for a reason; we needed to at the time. I think when us lot try to learn the extra skills we need to get by with all these other people, we do the best we can with the least input. We do our best to mature more quickly than the more leisurely pace of the more confident people. We may be behind them in some ways, but our rate of learning is as fast as we can make it.
I think this should count for something. At the very least, it's not worth beating oneself up about it. But I understand where you're coming from, Emma.
I think when you're shy like many of us here, we don't learn the social skills we need to so feel immature when the time comes to test what skills we do have. However, we've always held back from socialising for a reason; we needed to at the time. I think when us lot try to learn the extra skills we need to get by with all these other people, we do the best we can with the least input. We do our best to mature more quickly than the more leisurely pace of the more confident people. We may be behind them in some ways, but our rate of learning is as fast as we can make it.
I think this should count for something. At the very least, it's not worth beating oneself up about it. But I understand where you're coming from, Emma.
Falkor
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I sometimes feel childish too. Lol. Especially when it comes to my behaviour around my brother. He's 11 years old and I play games with him like throwing stuffed animals and talk about pokémon and I act like a little kid sometimes
I can laugh with him so much, He makes me laugh only when he looks at me like a serious face, and Yeah. I guess some people really think I'm weird because of that, But I love the bond between me and my brother. It's special.
I don't care, I just like to act a little younger around it, it makes me feel like a child again yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeey
Oh and yes, I still like animation movies, I reallly love them
I like pokemon, such a shame :$
So yeah. This is very judge-able for people, but I don't care =)
I can laugh with him so much, He makes me laugh only when he looks at me like a serious face, and Yeah. I guess some people really think I'm weird because of that, But I love the bond between me and my brother. It's special.
I don't care, I just like to act a little younger around it, it makes me feel like a child again yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeey
Oh and yes, I still like animation movies, I reallly love them
I like pokemon, such a shame :$
So yeah. This is very judge-able for people, but I don't care =)
I love animated movies and cartoons... I'm almost worse than my kids. Maybe this is one indication of being immature, but I like to think that being like a kid at heart is a good thing.
honeydippedxo
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Im 20 and the lion king is still my favorite movie. i dont sit down and watch my little brother and cousins at the park, im right there chasing them and playing around with them. in many ways im still nine yrs old. but i love it. its my childish moments when i find myself the happiest. growing up is over rated most "adults" i know seem pretty bored all the time to me. it gets to me sometimes that im not as mature as i think i should be at this age but its not like im a complete kid. any way you have the rest of your life to grow up. who says it has to be now? whats the rush?
Lexus199
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26 here. I can relate. That being said I don't think it's ever too late to start interacting with outside world. I'd say posting here is a good step to start with. I wouldn't compare yourself to other people. It's self-defeating. There's always someone "better" out there it seems. Appreciate the good in you. I'm sure you're a nice person.
Snowdrop
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I'm really surprised and somewhat relieved too to find so many people feeling the same. Don't worry, I feel exactly the same. I'm 18, in a few months I'll be 19 but I sure don't feel like it. Ever since SP kicked in (I didn't even know it was that then) I've felt as if my life has come to a standstill and I will always be 13 or something... as that's when it started. I feel like I've learnt so much (like now I know what it feels like to be depressed each day) but have learnt nothing at all.
I try to make myself feel better though, by just thinking no one else would have experienced something quite like this.
I try to make myself feel better though, by just thinking no one else would have experienced something quite like this.
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LovelyAmor
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I feel the same way. I feel that because my mom did not try to develop my social skills or how to be social with people my age (or just people in general), I feel very disconnected with others being in college. It is hard for me to interact with people. I feel stuck. I feel that i'm still 12, but my body is 19. It really stinks a lot. But at the same time, I feel like I have an old soul too. I feel like I was given that in order to deal with all the traumatic s**t that i've had to endure in my life. Weird . I feel lost. I'm not even connected with my own emotions. They feel out of place inside of me.
. I feel lost. I'm not even connected with my own emotions. They feel out of place inside of me.I dont feel mature because I never had a girlfriend,its getting really bad lately I keep watching girls everywhere I go,they probably think I am a pervert,but I am far from this believe me,I am having other kinds of thoughts,also next year I will be 24 and never went out to find my own life and place,but living alone wouldnt be wise in my situation right now,I am glad I can suport my mother and brother and help my father do it,but still I have a huge urge to do it.
EscapeArtist
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Hmmm... I don't feel immature. But that may just be because I have built up the qualities that match my definition of "maturity" to such a level, just so that I have a defense against my... Reliability on people, and actual immaturity in situations. Not able to handle lots of things
