No.
I guess I don't see things the same way.
I don't believe women only care about clothes and if they look better than the other women around them. I also don't believe women are more tame in sexuality.(although I do think most won't admit it and that there is less "honking", or what have you, from women)
Also, my family is mostly males and they make comments about, and to, men and women, depending.
agree to disagree, I guess lol.
I didn't say women only cared about clothes. How strange.
I look at the ground when I walk. I only see feet and feet don't have eyes to see me so I go unnoticed
...but no I don't think it's harder for women. And on that subject, women are just as leery as men. And I think people are starey in general for reasons other than attraction, actually I'd say 'attraction' is the least reason people stare. People stare at anyone who they perceive to be in any way different, its curiosity.
I look at the ground too. However, I know it is impossible to block out everyone. I can still see those around me, especially when they move, even if my eyes are looking directly downward, near my feet. And I'm freakishly good at blocking out everything, but the only way to get 100% is to just sit in class, stand in line, etc with my eyes closed...
And yeah, I think it's funny that people automatically go to "attractive" when discussing what causes others to stare. By people I mean users online and also counselors in real life. Ironically I am totally over asking that and did not ask that here. Somehow "attraction" still popped up...It's as if these people don't live in the same world I do...It's things like this that make me ponder if others are in denial or if they're brains are just drastically different from mine.
Like you said, people will stare at those who are
different. And yeah, maybe even more than they stare at someone who is so hot. I mean I'm sure anyone with some sort of visible disorder or even someone in a wheelchair could attest to getting a large amount of staring...And yes the stares can be negative if the difference is deemed "ugly." This is especially apparent among children who not only gawk but will go up to the person and tease or flat out ask "what's wrong with you." There is speculation as to what adults are thinking because adults know how to bullshit. Ask them why they're staring and they'll say they have no idea what you're talking about. Tell someone else you're being stared at and it's "maybe they find you attractive."
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