Hi all,
I have a bit of a problem that's been causing some anxiety with me. I want to go to a school in Texas next fall, and I live in Maryland. My boyfriend and I have been together 2 and a half years, and I want him to come with me. He wants to come too because he likes Texas too and wants to start a life there. I would be afraid to go alone and also I wouldn't want to separate, that would be too much. So basically I wouldn't go if he can't come. The problem is though he's an illegal immigrant, and wouldn't feel comfortable coming to a different state with harsher laws where he probably wouldn't be able to get a driver's license or job.
We have talked about getting married and that way he would be able to get residency here so we can move together. I'm 21 and still dependent on my mother for things and a lot of people think I'm too young or that I'm only doing it for the immigration thing, which is what it sounds like because to be honest, it is sort of rushed because of that. But that's not the only reason. I feel that our connection would be stronger and that our status in the eyes of the law would be family, you know? I feel really stuck. My mom says that if I'm going to get married to wait until June or something, but that wouldn't leave enough time to go through the process so that me and him can move in August/September.
I really want to get out of here and live in Texas because it reminds me of someone and something special in my life. I think it would change my life and I'd gain some confidence. I think it would help me get further away from things in my life that I would like to forget. But I would never go without my boyfriend; we live together, we do everything together. I'd be losing my best friend.
I don't really know who else to discuss this with, and usually everyone on spw is pretty understanding. Please help!
I have a bit of a problem that's been causing some anxiety with me. I want to go to a school in Texas next fall, and I live in Maryland. My boyfriend and I have been together 2 and a half years, and I want him to come with me. He wants to come too because he likes Texas too and wants to start a life there. I would be afraid to go alone and also I wouldn't want to separate, that would be too much. So basically I wouldn't go if he can't come. The problem is though he's an illegal immigrant, and wouldn't feel comfortable coming to a different state with harsher laws where he probably wouldn't be able to get a driver's license or job.
We have talked about getting married and that way he would be able to get residency here so we can move together. I'm 21 and still dependent on my mother for things and a lot of people think I'm too young or that I'm only doing it for the immigration thing, which is what it sounds like because to be honest, it is sort of rushed because of that. But that's not the only reason. I feel that our connection would be stronger and that our status in the eyes of the law would be family, you know? I feel really stuck. My mom says that if I'm going to get married to wait until June or something, but that wouldn't leave enough time to go through the process so that me and him can move in August/September.
I really want to get out of here and live in Texas because it reminds me of someone and something special in my life. I think it would change my life and I'd gain some confidence. I think it would help me get further away from things in my life that I would like to forget. But I would never go without my boyfriend; we live together, we do everything together. I'd be losing my best friend.
I don't really know who else to discuss this with, and usually everyone on spw is pretty understanding. Please help!