I agree with WishingICould. You can't really expect us to be happy all of a sudden because someone else had it worse, we realize that. I hope this won't be a "show your misery" topic ..
Who the hell said you needed to be happy all of a sudden? I just mentioned keeping things in perspective.
Nobody here chose to be mentally ill, It's just the luck of the draw. I've always done my very best to survive:
I had a terrible thing done to me as a child.
I've always fought against cracking up.
I went down the road to ruin with drug abuse.
I helped a school friend escape her pimp and heroin addiction.
I was involved in petty crime.
One of my brothers is an alcoholic, the other a heroin addict.
I've been a victim of a violent abusive relationship.
I've been homeless.
I have severe dyslexia.
I have Meneires Disease.
I've seen friends torn apart and dead after a car crash.
I got custody of my kids after their drug addict mother disappeared for a year.
I could go on....and on....
Where have I had it easy? Who are you to judge if any of us have had it easy? Who are you to give out medals? I've been through all that but who am I to judge anyone?
Please take no offence from my post.
Who the hell said you needed to be happy all of a sudden? I just mentioned keeping things in perspective.
I am keeping things in perspective but when you have anxiety and depression it doesn't matter if other people are having a "worse" time or not.
Actually it does. Be grateful for what you DO have. It may not change the underlying feelings, but at least it can sometimes nullify the self-pity one feels. And self-pity, as a lot of us who suffer with depression know, is like putting salt on the wound.
There's two kinds of people, there's the narcissists (I don't care if other people are doing worse -----> I <----- feel bad) and the empaths (gee, I feel really guilty for dwelling on my problems when others are suffering worse off than me). I at least sympathize for the empaths. Not the narcissists.
I'm not a narcissist. Did i say i didn't care if others were doing worse than me? No. I said it doesn't change how badly i'm feeling. There's a difference. Don't twist my words. I'm sure you've posted things on here complaining about your life just as much as everyone else has. If i'm honest, i think this thread is pretty stupid. Why post something like this on a mental health forum anyway?
This forum is about personal stories. Not a narcissist? You've taken a thread about someone else and made it all about you. What does that tell ya.
This story does make me feel guilty. I was having a questionable night and I'm not sure wallowing in self-guilt is better.
Either way, I thank you for posting. When you look at social anxiety forums this is what the majority of them share, heaping posts of negativity and or expression of emotions. It's best to get away, take a break, when you're feeling in a more positive mood or have placed things in "perspective".
Hoping the best works out for her.
How on earth can you know whether she has had a life any worse then any of us in here?h:
You don't know the details of all our personal histories.
If you die from cancer or die from pneumonia, what's the difference!? If the end result is the same, what caused you to get there makes no difference.
Yes I tend to drown in self pity way too often. Thank you for posting this Xervello. For me it's a good reminder that I have tools available that many others who are less fortenate than me have not. If I work hard, I can get out of the situation I'm currently in. I hope your friend will be more fortunate in the future. She certainly is a very very strong individual to survive all this misery. I hope she doesn't have to fight completely on her own, having the right people by your side can make such a huge difference. These battles can't be fought with a one man army.
Hmm on a different note, I've been thinking: do you think it would be helpful for people suffering from depression to get involved in some sort of voluntary work? My mum suggested this to me when I was on one of my 'bohoo my life sucks so bad'-rants. Perhaps she's right. Helping other's in need generally produces a feeling of self-worth and happiness. It'll also take your mind off your own sorrows for a little while. Does anyone have experience with volunteering?