How SPW site has made me feel...

lily

Well-known member
#1
I feel i want to leave this place and go to another forum bc i feel i get very little or no support, encouragement and response to my posts. I do give those to other people though so they might not feel like me. how do you all feel about this site?
 

LoyalXenite

Well-known member
#2
This site is quieter than it used to be but I still love it here. Its one of my online homes so to speak, and was crucial for me getting through some really shit times in life.

I think what you need to remember Lily is that is is a site for SA, so some people have trouble replying to posts, many prefer to lurk. So with that in mind you do get a fair amount of responses to your posts
 

lily

Well-known member
#3
i know that there are people with SA who like to lurk but that's not how i feel right now about this site. it's more of an issue of not enough people now and so you get less chances of responses.
 

theoutsider

Well-known member
#4
This site is quieter than it used to be but I still love it here. Its one of my online homes so to speak, and was crucial for me getting through some really shit times in life.
I share your experience and feel exactly the same! I like that I can come here when I've had a really shitty day and express as much without somebody telling me they don't need to hear the negativity or that they just don't understand.
 
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lily

Well-known member
#8
you missed the point of me feeling my posts being ignored, it's not that i blame others if they really feel SA about it
 
#9
I agree with Loyal and Theoutsider. I don't think people aren't 'supporting' you Lily, it's just that people can - and will - simply reply to the posts/post to what they feel like during that moment. Sometimes I see a post I COULD reply to, but don't because I sometimes just can't be bothered typing it in lol.

I couldn't have written it better than Loyal did in her first reply.
 
#10
I agree with Loyal and Theoutsider. I don't think people aren't 'supporting' you Lily, it's just that people can - and will - simply reply to the posts/post to what they feel like during that moment. Sometimes I see a post I COULD reply to, but don't because I sometimes just can't be bothered typing it in lol.

I couldn't have written it better than Loyal did in her first reply.
This is true. There will be a lot of times where I'll read a thread or post, and desperately try to say something to help or make them feel better. But a lot of the time, I've simply not got the tools or knowledge to do so. Sometimes I even feel weird talking to them, largely because I hardly respond to their posts for the aforementioned reasons. I'm even afraid to reply too much to single users.

If it means anything, there's not a single post in a thread that I've actively ignored. They're all read and processed even if I end up not responding to them. As I imagine a lot of people here do. I'd hate to see you go, Lily. You're a familiar face. But at the same time I understand why you'd want to. It often feels like the memories of SPW are a hundred years old, since so many people have moved on. Which I suppose is also a good thing, since some of them left for greener pastures.
 

LoyalXenite

Well-known member
#12
If it means anything, there's not a single post in a thread that I've actively ignored. They're all read and processed even if I end up not responding to them. As I imagine a lot of people here do.
I'm the same, I read all the posts, but half the time I just dont know how to reply or dont like what I type so I never end up posting it, or I start to second guess it all and decide its better to just stay out of the conversation.
 

Kiwong

Well-known member
#13
My thoughts are that you shouldn't really get that worried that much about a forum. The true place to look for support is the people around you - family, friends, health professionals. A forum is a place to be able to express myself in some anonymity. I have had some support from some great people on here but that is a bonus.
 
#14
This is true. There will be a lot of times where I'll read a thread or post, and desperately try to say something to help or make them feel better. But a lot of the time, I've simply not got the tools or knowledge to do so. Sometimes I even feel weird talking to them, largely because I hardly respond to their posts for the aforementioned reasons. I'm even afraid to reply too much to single users.
Same here. I often don't reply because it's people who never talked to me (which is pretty stupid when you think about it). Sometimes I type an answer but then I delete it because I'm wondering who I think I am to give anyone any advice. Sometimes I post something unrelated to anyone and then I delete it because I assume no one cares. And lately I've been in a cynical mood so it's better for everyone if I don't post too much ...!
 

lily

Well-known member
#15
there are positives to SPW too, i was just pointing out the utmost important thing thanks for the replies everyone anyway
 
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lily

Well-known member
#16
Same here. I often don't reply because it's people who never talked to me (which is pretty stupid when you think about it). Sometimes I type an answer but then I delete it because I'm wondering who I think I am to give anyone any advice. Sometimes I post something unrelated to anyone and then I delete it because I assume no one cares. And lately I've been in a cynical mood so it's better for everyone if I don't post too much ...!
you're important to give advice Pacific_Loner. you shouldn't really assume that no one cares bc they might not be like that and you didn't get your responses to your questions or topics.

btw nice username. i can relate. I'm a loner too nowadays
 
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#17
you're important to give advice Pacific_Loner. you shouldn't really assume that no one cares bc they might not be like that and you didn't get your responses to your questions or topics.

btw nice username. i can relate. I'm a loner too nowadays
Thanks, I'm sorry about your loneliness, it doesn't sound like you enjoy it. I hope things will get better for you
 

lily

Well-known member
#19
i don't want to blame SPW for the emptiness here anymore. it has improved w/ the new forum layout and now I've seen someone register so socialphobiaworld can still be great if more people joined or posted.
 
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