How much has rational-thinking strategies worked for you?

Moses199

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I see quite often see methods of rational statements/thinking. How much have they worked on treating your SA (alot OR moderately successful)??
 
#2
Could you elaborate on that method? Do you mean for example, when you're constantly telling yourself that you're worthless, instead you start thinking "objectively speaking, I'm worth as much as anyone else, etc."?
 
#3
As for me, it's mostly a way to get things done. Approach them as objective as I can till the things I dread is done. But in terms of anxiety, for me personally, it hasn't done much.
 

Sacrament

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What sometimes helps is thinking of the law of probability. I think about horrible things happening to my loved ones, but then imagine the odds of those things happening (low), and it helps a little.

I think verbalizing things also helps, because everything seems so real in your mind, but if you say it out loud, it'll help understand how silly it sounds.
 

lily

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#6
There's a book called 'Mind Over Mood' or sth like that. I've never tried or read it yet but it might be helpful! I've found that positive affirmations don't work for me but i haven't read that book yet so perhaps it would be different.
 
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lily

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There's a book called 'Mind Over Mood' or sth like that. I've never tried or read it yet but it might be helpful! I've found that positive affirmations don't work for me but i haven't read that book yet so perhaps it would be different.
if anyone reads this book before me please tell me how helpful it is!! Thank you :)
 

Moses199

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Could you elaborate on that method? Do you mean for example, when you're constantly telling yourself that you're worthless, instead you start thinking "objectively speaking, I'm worth as much as anyone else, etc."?
Yes, they say rational statements help anxiety. I wanted to see here how much has it helped others.
 

LoyalXenite

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Ah well in that case positive affirmations never helped me, they actually just make me mad :LOL:. I do better with quotes like this to comfort me, though it doesnt fix anything long term. Quotes just give me some immediate comfort or enjoyment, rather like memes do :LOL:.

 

Moses199

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Ah well in that case positive affirmations never helped me, they actually just make me mad :LOL:. I do better with quotes like this to comfort me, though it doesnt fix anything long term. Quotes just give me some immediate comfort or enjoyment, rather like memes do :LOL:.

You said it doesn't fix anything long-term. What has fixed things for you long-term?
 
#16
Yes, they say rational statements help anxiety. I wanted to see here how much has it helped others.
What helped me personally is understanding how my brain works, how the way I was raised have an impact on what I am and how I perceive myself today, so that when I tell myself that I am worthless, ugly, retarded, etc., I can pause and remind myself why I have this low opinion of myself, and how it doesn't necessarly reflect reality. Then instead of telling myself I'm worthless I can think more rationally: I grew up thinking I was worth nothing because of the way I was raised, but now that I know it, the reality is that I have about the same power as the average to be worth something.
 

Moses199

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so that when I tell myself that I am worthless, ugly, retarded, etc., I can pause and remind myself why I have this low opinion of myself, and how it doesn't necessarly reflect reality. .
But if one is ugly how does that not reflect reality? It's reality and how you actually, i don't understand what you mean can you explain more please. I have the issue of looking ugly too unfortunately. I'm very self-concious and feel like i'm ugly, and i believe it reality.
 

lily

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But if one is ugly how does that not reflect reality? It's reality and how you actually, i don't understand what you mean can you explain more please. I have the issue of looking ugly too unfortunately. I'm very self-concious and feel like i'm ugly, and i believe it reality.
you might think you're ugly but others might think you're cute. it comes down to perspective. i've seen people who i thought were unattractive get a partner.. if you're kind like your partner and not being fake then you'll keep your partner but the issue is i don't want to get anyone who's unattractive on the outside only to find out they're also ugly on the inside but i think i can compromise for the outside bc i think the inside is so valuable and it can still be your type somewhat and your type of personality. other than that, no one is perfect also. no one has everything
 
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But if one is ugly how does that not reflect reality? It's reality and how you actually, i don't understand what you mean can you explain more please. I have the issue of looking ugly too unfortunately. I'm very self-concious and feel like i'm ugly, and i believe it reality.
Hah, Yeah I have this opinion too. However, objectively speaking, people with low self-esteem probably sees themselves as less attractive than the exact same looking person with high self esteem. Look is also very subjective, so as Lily said, you could be ugly for someone and handsome for someone else.

But I think what I was trying to say is, it doesn't matter. There is some things you can do to be better looking, like working out, taking care of your health, paying attention to how you dress, have a nice hair cut, etc., but ultimately you have the right to live your life just as much as anyone else.

So what I'm saying is, it's no use to try and convince yourself that you're good looking if you're not, but it's under your control not to let that stop you from getting where you want to go.
 
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