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How Do You Feel About Hugging?

Started by theoutsider · May 14, 2013 · 75 replies

#21
mixedupgirl said: ↑
But yeah I'll take a hug any day.

Me too. I'm not too concerned about space issues. If someone wants to give me a hug I hug them. I feel weird initiating them though. But I could use more hugs in my life!:ironicsmile:
#22
Once in Madrid there were some boys and girls offering themselves to be hugged/asking for hugs in "Porta do Sol". I found it strange at first but then I didn´t mind.
#23
My friend's girlfriend give me a big hug the other day because it's been a while since she's seen me.
It would have been awkward already.
But the fact that she's 4'11,I'm 6'3,and it was kind of sudden made it 10 times more awkward.🤭

I don't generally like being touched.
But I don't mind hugs really.
#24
Apart from my wife and kids no I don't really like hugs. I don't like people touching me at all.
#25
The more, the better! 🙂 Unless it's one person hugging you over and over again in a single meeting... which I've experienced. Please don't do that. haha

I am hesitant to hug anyone who I'm not close with, and I think that makes perfect sense. It is a pretty personal thing to do, so I can't understand those who are comfortable hugging just anyone. I find that awfully audacious of them (alliteration ftw!).
#26
I never say no to a hug

But it never happens
because everyone automatically turns 180º and walks away if it's strangers, friends, family

I remember the last time it happened was 2 years ago
when I was alone in hospital for months
the word must have spread by facebook
I was told I had a visitor. I sprinted down the corridor to greet because we lived the opposite sides of Britain for years. I like a surprise
#27
I like hugs. I'll take a hug if it's ever offered.
#28
GhastlyCC said: ↑
My friend's girlfriend give me a big hug the other day because it's been a while since she's seen me.
It would have been awkward already.
But the fact that she's 4'11,I'm 6'3,and it was kind of sudden made it 10 times more awkward.🤭
^ Hehe. 🤭 I hear you on that. I'm also only 5' 0" and I used to have a guy friend that was around 6' 3". Hugs were a little awkward, but he didn't crush me so it was all good.
#29
I'm not used to being touched. It can be uncomfortable, I appreciate the affection involved but I don't know how to respond.
#30
GhastlyCC said: ↑
My friend's girlfriend give me a big hug the other day because it's been a while since she's seen me.
It would have been awkward already.
But the fact that she's 4'11,I'm 6'3,and it was kind of sudden made it 10 times more awkward.🤭
My friend's girlfriend used to hug me a lot, too. Once she was kissing me on the cheek with my friend right there. She is quite affectionate (and hot, which makes it that much better). 🙂

I'm happy for that hug you got.
#31
Isolated_Writer said: ↑
I don't like hugs and I let people know if I need to. Otherwise, if I'm feeling sad and need a hug I go here: The Nicest Place on the Inernet

First time to that site! I like virtual hugs 🙂
#32
I hate hugs from anyone but my partner and my child.
#33
Hugging is so damn sexy.....😛
#34
MotherWolff said: ↑
Hugging is so damn sexy.....😛

This.....

And, there is something about having hearts so close. Biologically, chemically, nothing is happening. But the heart, the one that isn't there but is there and felt, warm and fuzzies.

Erm, maybe the warm and fuzzies is a chemical reaction?
#35
Winja said: ↑
Hate man on man hugging and won't do it. On the two occasions when some bloke has tried, I've grabbed their wrist shook their hand with my other hand and given them a hearty slap on the shoulder.

I understand southern Europe is different, but I don't live in southern Europe (or other parts of the world). This is England. We are a mix of UK Celts, Norse and Germanics. I don't care what someone saw Jay-Z or Tony Soprano doing.

I'll give my female relatives or friends a hug and a kiss on the cheek if I haven't seen them for a few months

and then there's the other type of hug only given as a precursor to a little snog or because you're girlfriends crying (hips touching). Not your girlfriend crying then put your arm round her from beside her.

It infuriates me that someone wants to change a culture that's been going on hundreds maybe thousands of years because they saw a movie or watched too much MTV.:veryangry:

A man even placing a hand on my shoulder and you better be one scary ******-******, because I'm assuming you're trying to physically intimidate me. A very light quick tap might be because I didn't realise he was talking to me and is acceptable.


So... a friendly cupping of the balls is out then, I take it?

:😛:
#36
Winja said: ↑
Hate man on man hugging and won't do it. On the two occasions when some bloke has tried, I've grabbed their wrist shook their hand with my other hand and given them a hearty slap on the shoulder.

I understand southern Europe is different, but I don't live in southern Europe (or other parts of the world). This is England. We are a mix of UK Celts, Norse and Germanics. I don't care what someone saw Jay-Z or Tony Soprano doing.

I'll give my female relatives or friends a hug and a kiss on the cheek if I haven't seen them for a few months

and then there's the other type of hug only given as a precursor to a little snog or because you're girlfriends crying (hips touching). Not your girlfriend crying then put your arm round her from beside her.

It infuriates me that someone wants to change a culture that's been going on hundreds maybe thousands of years because they saw a movie or watched too much MTV.:veryangry:

A man even placing a hand on my shoulder and you better be one scary ******-******, because I'm assuming you're trying to physically intimidate me. A very light quick tap might be because I didn't realise he was talking to me and is acceptable.

But it's okay to hug a guy.. it's just guy love.. between two guys.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sxbROMQTjKg
#37
Isolated_Writer said: ↑
I don't like hugs and I let people know if I need to. Otherwise, if I'm feeling sad and need a hug I go here: The Nicest Place on the Inernet

Clicked on he link. First thing I see is some creepy guy holding a sign saying it's snuggling time. Had to click away immediately. No thanks, I'll stick with the real thing. LOL.
#38
theoutsider said: ↑
Clicked on he link. First thing I see is some creepy guy holding a sign saying it's snuggling time. Had to click away immediately. No thanks, I'll stick with the real thing. LOL.

Oh my gosh that is a creepy. Sorry, they've switched up the people and now all the people I had gotten used to are gone :sad:
#39
The breeding parasite from Aliens?
#40
I like it. It's the only form of contact I ever receive.

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