Iseesky
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Last week I started a new job in an office.
My mom's friend's daughter (who I'm not that close to) got me the job.
The actual working part isn't much trouble, but it's the socializing!
It's a very social office. Everyone is friendly with each other. The problem is, I'm the first newcomer they've had in YEARS! They're all very welcoming and kind and say hello, but I just can't help feeling I don't fit in.
Despite most of them being much older than me, they like to go out after work to drink...I'm not a drinker. I don't like crowds and I'd much rather go straight home after a long day than put myself into another stressful environment! And, alcohol just makes me sleepy...I wish it made me more outgoing and friendly, but it doesn't...I'm the one asleep on the couch. ::
Anyway, I just don't know where I fit in. They all have their groups...The young people, a few groups of older ones...I certainly don't fit in with the younger drinkers (including my mom's friend's daughter), but I also don't fit in with the older ones who are old enough to retire. Not to mention they've all been working together for years and share so many stories and I'm completely new.
Typically I wouldn't have a problem if I didn't fit in at school or elsewhere, but this is a full-time job and I want to find a group...I don't want to be 'that girl who never leaves her cubicle.' I just find it so draining trying to keep up with everyone and be friendly!
Any advice? Similar experience?
My mom's friend's daughter (who I'm not that close to) got me the job.
The actual working part isn't much trouble, but it's the socializing!
It's a very social office. Everyone is friendly with each other. The problem is, I'm the first newcomer they've had in YEARS! They're all very welcoming and kind and say hello, but I just can't help feeling I don't fit in.
Despite most of them being much older than me, they like to go out after work to drink...I'm not a drinker. I don't like crowds and I'd much rather go straight home after a long day than put myself into another stressful environment! And, alcohol just makes me sleepy...I wish it made me more outgoing and friendly, but it doesn't...I'm the one asleep on the couch. ::
Anyway, I just don't know where I fit in. They all have their groups...The young people, a few groups of older ones...I certainly don't fit in with the younger drinkers (including my mom's friend's daughter), but I also don't fit in with the older ones who are old enough to retire. Not to mention they've all been working together for years and share so many stories and I'm completely new.
Typically I wouldn't have a problem if I didn't fit in at school or elsewhere, but this is a full-time job and I want to find a group...I don't want to be 'that girl who never leaves her cubicle.' I just find it so draining trying to keep up with everyone and be friendly!
Any advice? Similar experience?