onehandclapping
Well-known member
I feel like everywhere I go i'm forgotten, overlooked, not considered ,that I am never asked to be part of things... its gotten to point where I have tried everything yet it still feels like I don't exist to people. I used to make a lot of effort, I did all the following stuff in the past despite having social anxiety. I am here to tell you that it doesn't make a difference if you have social anxiety and can't go out, to if you really try and push through it to make good friends (the ends justify the means) sometimes you are forgotten or left out no matter what you do.
I was always the person ringing others up to get together, going over to see them, it was through no lack of effort on my part. I remember when I met some new friends at a bar, I had known them for a while, I was friends with the manager, or at least I thought I was? I would conversate with them every time I was there, listen to her problems, talk to the bar staff and be on friendly first name terms with them, even stayed over at one of their flats one night, invited them to parties I had organised. yet when it came to them doing something I was never considered, even when I expressed interest. I remember the real insult was when they made collage of all their "friends" that they knew who came to the bar out of photos taken of the people they knew, I was there every week, sometimes I would dj for them, and yet people who hardly ever went there or didn't even care about the place were included in their "friends" collage and I wasn't... what a slap in the face that was! they all were organising a day out I said I would like to come along, they all went without me.
I got to know other "friends" at parties, people who I formed a great bond with.. who I tought things to, who I helped get his career started and who I helped get a job, I put in good words for him to loads of other people.I considered him one of my best friends, yet when he tried to commit suicide I was never informed. people who were nowhere near as supportive and helpful were told about it and I wasn't. I was there for him through thick and thin, I was the best friend a friend could be to both him and his family. yet nobody considered to even tell me. that is how little I mean to people... I was there for him and his family week in week out, I remember spending hours in that kitchen talking through and being a sympathetic ear to his family who were going through tough times and problems, I offered loads of help and support and when I fell on hard times I never even heard from them.
I could bring up countless other examples of times when I have tried to make friends with people and I am always the person left out, forgotten, not considered. through no lack of effort or care on my part. I feel like I don't want to make any effort anymore. it even extends to my presence online (not here but other websites I have tried my luck and different approaches), I have been friendly, supportive, welcoming to people online and yet when I leave those places no one remembers me or even gives much of a shit at all. I even tried drawing more attention to myself, being really attention seeking, that didn't help either. I just don't know what the **** to do anymore, I have run out of ideas. I make effort with peopkle, nothing. I try and play it cool and sort of hard to get, nothing. I make less effort, nothing. I draw attention to myself , nothing. I feel like I have been cursed or something!
I was always the person ringing others up to get together, going over to see them, it was through no lack of effort on my part. I remember when I met some new friends at a bar, I had known them for a while, I was friends with the manager, or at least I thought I was? I would conversate with them every time I was there, listen to her problems, talk to the bar staff and be on friendly first name terms with them, even stayed over at one of their flats one night, invited them to parties I had organised. yet when it came to them doing something I was never considered, even when I expressed interest. I remember the real insult was when they made collage of all their "friends" that they knew who came to the bar out of photos taken of the people they knew, I was there every week, sometimes I would dj for them, and yet people who hardly ever went there or didn't even care about the place were included in their "friends" collage and I wasn't... what a slap in the face that was! they all were organising a day out I said I would like to come along, they all went without me.
I got to know other "friends" at parties, people who I formed a great bond with.. who I tought things to, who I helped get his career started and who I helped get a job, I put in good words for him to loads of other people.I considered him one of my best friends, yet when he tried to commit suicide I was never informed. people who were nowhere near as supportive and helpful were told about it and I wasn't. I was there for him through thick and thin, I was the best friend a friend could be to both him and his family. yet nobody considered to even tell me. that is how little I mean to people... I was there for him and his family week in week out, I remember spending hours in that kitchen talking through and being a sympathetic ear to his family who were going through tough times and problems, I offered loads of help and support and when I fell on hard times I never even heard from them.
I could bring up countless other examples of times when I have tried to make friends with people and I am always the person left out, forgotten, not considered. through no lack of effort or care on my part. I feel like I don't want to make any effort anymore. it even extends to my presence online (not here but other websites I have tried my luck and different approaches), I have been friendly, supportive, welcoming to people online and yet when I leave those places no one remembers me or even gives much of a shit at all. I even tried drawing more attention to myself, being really attention seeking, that didn't help either. I just don't know what the **** to do anymore, I have run out of ideas. I make effort with peopkle, nothing. I try and play it cool and sort of hard to get, nothing. I make less effort, nothing. I draw attention to myself , nothing. I feel like I have been cursed or something!