Disconnected!?

SilentStranger

Well-known member
I am feeling a bit disconnected. No no I am not talking about internet... thats also disconnecting.. but thats another story.

Ever since I got the net (in mid/late 90s) I have been looking at SP/shyness forums. Always felt that I a bit relieved when I found so many people posting about the same problems I have. Felt like I belonged somewhere and mostly felt connected.

But now I just feel disconnected from it all. I feel I can't relate to the people .. including the people here.

I am not sure what bought it on. Maybe the fact that I feel old. I have had a birthday not so long ago and was thinking about the fact that I have stayed at this apartment for quite a few years. Time passing has always bugged me. Its probably that.

The feeling of being disconnected... its tied to loneliness but, the worse thing is the feeling of hopelessness. Dammit! I haven't been this low for a while... I have been anxious and worried, but not depressed.. bugger!

Does anybody feel like that?

-SS
 

Lexmark

Well-known member
I guess just coz someone has SP doesnt meen ya gonna get along
How old r u ?
I havent spoken to anyone in 3 days but i dun get lonely
i found when i was working and came home and did nothing was wen i felt lonely
dunno why but thats how it works for me
 

tpdarlo

Well-known member
Maybe you need to reinvigorate your life, mix things up a bit. Maybe try going for a run each day, or joining a gym. If you can, try and move into a house with friends. That's what I did and I can honestly say it is giving me more motivation and an interest in life, and I think it's gradually improving my disorder.
 

lostinspace

Member
SilentStranger said:
But now I just feel disconnected from it all. I feel I can't relate to the people .. including the people here.

I'm new to this board so I'm not dealing with that yet, but there is another board (non-social phobia related) I frequent where something similar has occurred. At first I was amazed at how many people were just like me and going through similar struggles when I thought I was the only one. After reading tons of posts and posting a few myself from time to time, I felt plugged in and like I actually belonged somewhere. Then after awhile I started noticing that certain people were dominating the board, starting little cliques, jumping down my throat and doing other things that happen in everyday life that I can't stand. I started to feel like it was just another group I didn't belong in so I took down my pictures, changed my name and now rarely every post.
 

Broken_Memory

Well-known member
I have felt disconnected from people for quite some time now. More than half the time when I'm with my family (I still live with my parents, I'm 20) I feel like I could easily be dreaming.
For the most part, the feeling disconnected is a very upsetting feeling. I keep waiting for it to go away, I figure once I'm in University (September) I won't have to feel that way anymore.

I think a lot of the reason I feel this way (and maybe others with social phobia have a similar reason) is because I don't really open up and tell people what's really going on. I keep a LOT of secrets, what my feelings are, what music I like etc all for fear of rejection. The one person I never feel disconnected from is my best friend and I tell her 95% of what goes on in my life. I just have to find out what's worse, opening up and maybe being judged, or feeling disconnected from people as long as I live.
 

faithnomore

Banned
I am an odd social phobic. I dont want to socialise, but i am a good communicator. So its like i need to talk to some people..even though i hate it. argh, is anyone else like that?
 

VioletTears

Well-known member
Me

I feel that NOBODY understands me and I'm reaching the point of thinking, why bother.

I used to be a top poster at a forum that I belonged to and it was the one place where I felt totally comfortable bearing my soul... but then my depression hit bad and some people didn't even want to try understanding, others tried but I felt like they were probably just being nice and secretly they were judging me. Now I am always second guessing how much I can really say but when I try making small talk I feel fake. I don't really give a crap about the latest news or fashion or anything anymore... I just want to crawl into a hole and hide from everyone... Even my family.
 

Infected_Malignity

Well-known member
I'm too connected. It drags me down man! I'm on the flipside from you - I'm trying to disconnect from all the empathy and emotions that are swimming around in my blood. Can you teach me your magical ways?
 
Yes... in my case -same as yours- i'm seeing the 40's coming fast, and i'm all alone in my appartment, were i've spent my last 8 years without any remarkable thing in my life but just loser stuff...
I not only feel disconnected but i feel like i can't relate to nobody, i can't have friends, i cant' have a relationship, i won't get married, i don't event want to see my old friends or my family...
I know its "tabu", but i' m thinking right now what sense does it make to keep on with this boring and senseless life... i have no faith in a better tomorrow...
I really need a miracle .
 
VioletTears said:
Me

I feel that NOBODY understands me and I'm reaching the point of thinking, why bother.

I used to be a top poster at a forum that I belonged to and it was the one place where I felt totally comfortable bearing my soul... but then my depression hit bad and some people didn't even want to try understanding, others tried but I felt like they were probably just being nice and secretly they were judging me. Now I am always second guessing how much I can really say but when I try making small talk I feel fake. I don't really give a crap about the latest news or fashion or anything anymore... I just want to crawl into a hole and hide from everyone... Even my family.
wow it sounds just like me!
 

Coper

Active member
Wow, a lot of people here have become disillusioned with internet forums. I've never been a frequent poster on any before, but I was an active participant in a mailing list once, years ago. It left me with a bit of a bad taste in my mouth, from some of the negative interactions I had had with other posters, or things I posted that I felt embarrassed about later. It wasn't that bad overall, though. It seems like that sort of shit comes up in any group of people. People always complain about office politics, for instance.

I've always felt at least a little bit alienated from every group I've ever been part of. I think it's partly a defense against getting too emotionally invested in group politics, which can be very hurtful.
 

noblame4

Well-known member
That happens, man. You get bored with stuff. I've not been here very long, and I can already feel the topics getting repetive. Just look around for other things, i've had hours and days and weeks of fun googling and youtubing random shit.
 

Len

Well-known member
I am quite new to this forum and the novelty is beginning to wear off. I have read most of the posts on the forum and it has been great being able to relate to people's stories. I feel like I need to move on but I keep coming back due to boredom. I can't find anything interesting on the internet anymore and there are only three sites I visit regularly. WHY AM I ALWAYS FUC*ING BORED! AAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHH. The internet is a lonely place, I need to get back to the real world. Asta la vista!
 
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