grapevine
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I'm not sure where to put this so I'll just put it here.
So I weigh 53-55kg and I'm about 156cm tall. According to my doctor I'm in the healthy weight for my height or body mass index.
But despite this, I get people telling me all the how skinny I am and asking me what I eat and what I should or need to eat.
Like this morning at work and I mention it was a little chilly - and 3 of the coworkers reply that it's because I have no fat on me at all. Once again people highlighting that my body is not right.
I will mention I have BDD (Body Dysmorphia) and in my past many years ago I was emotionally abused and told by the guy I lived with that I looked skinny and sickly all the time and unattractive ( that was 9 years ago and I did then have an eating disorder then as it was a horrific time for me).
But I eat lots of protien, calories - I'm vegan and been vegan for a very long time- - I eat variety of foods and eat high raw diet - and loads of fat in my food. I enjoy the way I eat.
Lately through depression my calories have dipped and I'm not that active so my muscle mass has withered a little.
But the thing is it's like obese people can tell me that I'm unhealthy .
Its like I'm not going to say back that they are unhealthy. It's like my body is socially unacceptable - and it's really really hard for me with BDD to have others highlight that to me.
At the start of last year I weighed around 82 kg - I had been overweight for some time because I was an emotional eater and would eat loads and loads of junk foods as my highlight of my days - now since I work that desire has gone and since last year all the weight just went.
People who remember me then get a shock I guess too.
But I get so many people thinking I'm anorexic or something- I'm so not. It's like I wish it was the 70s when being skinny was the norm - now it's like being overweight is the norm and being skinny is wrong or something.
I do t aim for skinny - it's just the way my body is now.
But I feel like hiding, not going out , completely ashamed of my body - it's a little Boney in my shoulders and stuff - and I know I need to build muscle again - it just sux how I'm always pointed out as not right because of my body - with bdd it's like the worst thing in the world!
So I weigh 53-55kg and I'm about 156cm tall. According to my doctor I'm in the healthy weight for my height or body mass index.
But despite this, I get people telling me all the how skinny I am and asking me what I eat and what I should or need to eat.
Like this morning at work and I mention it was a little chilly - and 3 of the coworkers reply that it's because I have no fat on me at all. Once again people highlighting that my body is not right.
I will mention I have BDD (Body Dysmorphia) and in my past many years ago I was emotionally abused and told by the guy I lived with that I looked skinny and sickly all the time and unattractive ( that was 9 years ago and I did then have an eating disorder then as it was a horrific time for me).
But I eat lots of protien, calories - I'm vegan and been vegan for a very long time- - I eat variety of foods and eat high raw diet - and loads of fat in my food. I enjoy the way I eat.
Lately through depression my calories have dipped and I'm not that active so my muscle mass has withered a little.
But the thing is it's like obese people can tell me that I'm unhealthy .
Its like I'm not going to say back that they are unhealthy. It's like my body is socially unacceptable - and it's really really hard for me with BDD to have others highlight that to me.
At the start of last year I weighed around 82 kg - I had been overweight for some time because I was an emotional eater and would eat loads and loads of junk foods as my highlight of my days - now since I work that desire has gone and since last year all the weight just went.
People who remember me then get a shock I guess too.
But I get so many people thinking I'm anorexic or something- I'm so not. It's like I wish it was the 70s when being skinny was the norm - now it's like being overweight is the norm and being skinny is wrong or something.
I do t aim for skinny - it's just the way my body is now.
But I feel like hiding, not going out , completely ashamed of my body - it's a little Boney in my shoulders and stuff - and I know I need to build muscle again - it just sux how I'm always pointed out as not right because of my body - with bdd it's like the worst thing in the world!